Are you kidding me? With every fiber of my being..I never wanted to break up. I had to because it wasn't working and we weren't healthy together. I need to be in a healthy relationship and he lies too much. I wish with all my heart things were different. I still love him madly. I have to save myself though. We'd been through the break up - get back together vicious cycle over and over and over..That doesn't work.

I wasn't the cheater but for a while I held on to hope that my stbx would come back.I took my vows seriously and felt obligated to try to work things out regardless of what he'd done. I really think I needed him to validate my existence. In addition to telling me he was involved with someone else, he told me he doesn't love me and doesn't miss me. I've decided to take him at his word and get on with my life.

Oh me, I think you will find lots of people here that want to get back together and holding on to that hope. Sadly, there are so many reasons why they (we) can't go back. I try to look for guidance and encouragement from the people that have gotten past that pesky hope feeling and have learned to move on with their lives.

I definitely want to be with my husband. I miss him every day and I can still think about the life we could have together. But, he has flat out told me that he can't/won't stop lying to me even though he claims to still love me. So, there's that.

It's a shitty situation where, once again in this relationship, I have to do the hardest work which is end this relationship with the person that I want to love the most. I know I will eventually walk away a stronger person but it sure is difficult right now :( I sure wish I was past this still-holding-on-to-that-sliver-of-hope stage.

Yes I dream of getting back with my ex and would do it in a heartbeat. Then, I stop and think of the reason we broke up in the first place, the rough times we had the way we were drifting apart and the way he is not the man today as he was a year ago. If I could hit rewind button to 18-24 months ago we would be happy again and in a better place in our relationship. I think back to the happy good time before he got on meth before he changed and I cry, not only of our broken relationship but of the broken man he has become. I hurt for us not being together but I also hurt for him.

Cupid is one hell of a joker.

Nope...not for a second!
I deserve someone who is faithful and trustworthy. I don't need a cheater...no matter how long we were married. My life is a million times better without him!

I'm sorry to read some of these stories. I know you all worked so hard to save relationships that probably were on life support. I guess I made this thread prematurely. I was just coming across a lot of "Screw my ex" comments, and I wondered if anyone still loved their ex and wanted to be with the person still.

{{hugs}} to all of you, esp those going through a divorce. I hope in time we all heal and grow.

Everyday, my ex was amazing I did not want it to end. But if he had not treated me well probably not. I have had bad boyfriends and you could not pay me to get back with them.

My ex was the bad guy too lol its a sad thing i loved him very much i gave him chance after chance in our relationship to make it work unfortunatly it gets to a point the one who was hurt and lied to for so long gets tired of trying and sad all the time so in my situation goodbye for good was the only way i think my ex will probably relize what a good thing he lost now that hes out in that big world now testing the waters im sure he will see in this crazy day in age the world has changed and he didnt have it so bad with me afterall. In my situation my ex was a widower his wife past after 16 yrs of marriage he met me a yr later so not sure he relizes how times have changed guess he will find out that for himself now. Hugs to u and best of luck try changin is my advise to u try and be a good guy it makes life so much easier then u wont have to wonder if its too late for things to work out best of luck to u

My Ex was the BF from hell - but even then - for a few months I was in denial and hoped that he would change and would come back remorseful - Fast forward - a year after the break up - NOPE - do not want him back. When we break up with ppl who aren't good for us and we want them back - that means we are idolizing the relationship or we are in denial and we think we can change people - once we come out of that stage things get easier.

Every. Single. Day. Even though, in my head, I know it would be the worst decision of my life. My heart just needs to get on the same page.

want to? every minute of every day. Going to? Hell, no-and not just cause he's married now to the other woman. But I'm not doing this anymore. I told him the last time he asked to come back, that it would be the last time. I reminded him of that when he did this to me again. It hurts too damn much; more each time and I am done. I love him to the nth degree...but I am done.
And I know he doesnt believe me. I'm sure he thinks I'll be waiting in the bull pen waiting for him to want me again... but I wont be. I quit my job and am looking for another one as far away from here as I can get. He knows I quit my job and wants to know where I'm going. I told him Houston.....but i'm not going there.
As soon as I find something and leave town I am changing all my phone numbers and emails, etc. My friends are under orders to not give him any info. I'm not even going to say goodbye or let him know when I'm leaving. Just gonna be gone.
For the first time in 26 years He wont know where I am. I love him with all my heart but I cant do it anymore. I'm done.

Yes I would, but I don't miss the man he became in the end. if he came back as the man I married and gave my heart to, then yes, I would take him back, no questions asked. the sad fact of my situation is HE WONT come back, I really don't have that option.
there was a time, not too long ago that I missed him so much. As time ticks on, the missing has faded somewhat and I don't think about him as often. I never thought I would get to that point...I am slowly starting to forget that we were ever married, that we were ever a couple, it's just weird........life goes on regardless of what is happening in our lives, I used to resent that people were going about their days while I was melting away into despair. You never know what the day will bring....do you?

No way. The last 10 years were he$$. He was verbally abusive and had anger issues, The last straw was when he started drinking again after 15 years of sobriety and stealing my pain medicine. Getting away from him was the best thing I have done for myself and I should have done it years ago.

Take her back? I dream of her every night, and every waking moment. I always hesitate to say we had an amazing relationship, but truly, we constantly talked about how it is that we were made for each other. I was the "bad guy", had a drinking problem. No infidelity, no trust issues, no clear warnings, at least that I picked up on. I would never have chosen alcohol over her or my family, had I known the consequences. I would do anything to hear her voice, see her, hold her, I lost my best friend in the world. Yes, without hesitation. I just wish she would take a look at the new sober me and remember all of the good things that brought us together and give me that opportunity now that I know the consequences of my choices.