I'm close. 48. But I feel 80! Waiting for final papers for divorce after 25 years. Husband ran away. And he can keep running! Lol!

I'm 54. Feel like 30. Look like 40 ( told this frequently). Divorced just this year at her request.

not even close to 50, but Im' still going to join in, cus I can.

I think pain and recovering from a breakup is universal despite age, sex or whatnot.

Welcome to the group

Me, me, me! I am 56 and divorcing after 23 years of marriage. I can't figure out why, but once I turned 50, men began hitting on me as much as they did when I was in my 20s! It was quite surprising. I don't think I would ever do online dating. I'm sure there are couples who met there and have married and built very happy lives together, but those seem to be rare. Instead, I've mainly heard horror stories. That being said, anyone whose been following my story knows I managed to marry two very abusive men without the help of online dating. One I met at work and one I met at a party. If I wanted to start dating again, I'd probably put the word out among family and friends and ask them to feel free to introduce me to any single men they knew. I would also join some clubs in my area or volunteer somewhere.

I'm 53. I am finding that I'm more active (sports and outdoor activities) and have more interests than a lot of people my age; both female and male.

I have just gotten out of a serious dating relationship that lasted almost 2 years (he was starting to talk very openly about marriage with me). I want to date again. I think it is too soon though for me, as I want to heal and completely get this man I was dating out of my mind. I actually initiated the breakup back in November 2015, got back together for a little while until I initiated the breakup again in February 2016. I did no contact very well for approximately 2 months by blocking his phone number completely and also taking everything having to do with him off of my FB page, along with blocking him, his family members and close friends, and then ended up making the huge mistake of answering an email message that he had sent to me (I had his phone number blocked on my phone at the time). We were supposed to meet one of the first days in April to see if the relationship we had, had a chance any longer. That meeting did not take place, as I had a car accident on the way to the meeting with him, and the rest of the day was not good for me to meet due to extreme emotional exhaustion from the ups and downs of our dating relationship and then the emotional toll that the car accident took on me that day. (I thought about this accident happening a lot... like it was a total sign from the Holy Spirit showing me that if I ever did get back with him again, that it would be a total wreck and the relationship would still keep causing a lot of destruction and pain in my life.) I did good for another approximate two months with having no contact with him until two weeks ago by me taking three of his personal items back to him without seeing him. I left them in a secure place outside of his home by his vehicle. I then made the huge mistake of unblocking his telephone number to see if he had any comments about getting his things back. We started communicating via text again, and it all came to a head yesterday for me where I blocked and deleted his number for good, deleted all the texts on my phone from him that I had kept for the last year. The next step is to delete all email communications from him that I have saved over the years, so I don't start reading through them again and start romanticizing over the good times we had together, as I know in my head we had way many more tension-filled and negative encounters and issues in our relationship to ever make it trusting between the both of us any longer.

*Wheew....heavy sigh....it sure did feel good to write that all out and quit dwelling and overthinking about it all!!*

@Samantha - Where would you volunteer to meet decent and upstanding men? I've been thinking about this, too.

I wouldn't choose a place to volunteer with the goal of meeting men per se. I would just volunteer where I felt an interest and if I meet someone, great. Volunteering will expland your social contacts regardless and you could meet someone THROUGH a friend you make while volunteering. I am a huge volunteer. In the past, I volunteered at our local animal shelter and throughout my daughter's school years with band and marching band. Now, I volunteer at my local community theatre and I offer my help at our community's big summer festival where I usually end up pouring beer in the beer tent. I am thinking now about volunteering in my local hospital. Look for opportunities to volunteer in your area. You can usually find them tacked up on bulletin boards in your library or community center. You can also check out groups that you might be interested in like Habitat for Humanity or Special Olympics or Make A Wish .... those are just some ideas. Don't go with the idea of meeting a man though. Go with the idea of helping and having fun. The rest will fall into place on its own. :-)

I'm 55. I feel like 155 some days. I was born the day after President Kennedy was elected. I remember Richard Nixon, Neil Armstrong, Adam-12, pet rocks, and disco. But I can't seem to remember last week. I remember when Tang instant breakfast drink came out in the stores. I used to put playing cards in the spokes of my bike to make it sound cool.

I'm not going to explain "my divorce story" here, I think it can be seen on my profile, if you want to see it.

Regarding reply #16:

Furbabymom is lying. She's not 48. She's only 29. She's just trying to get attention..

I am 67, I have been widowed for 13 years.
I spent 37 years trying to make my husband happy and supporting him no matter what silly thing was on his mind.
Our house was not on his list of priorities so by the time he died the house was literally falling down around us. I got a job at school the last 7 years he was alive, and spent as much time away from home as possible. He was home all the time.
He was so hard to live with, as the only person that really mattered to him, was himself. Never once would he lower himself to change a diaper or do anything he considered "women's work"
Last complaint was I never had an extra penny to spend on anything.

As hard as that all was, because of where I am now, in a location I love, with a ton of wonderful neighbors in this Valley who totally were responsible for my house being rebuilt, I would not change a thing.
I am right where I want to be. I worked so hard for so many years to end up here, but, for me, it was all worth it.

I have wonderful kids, I get to spend a couple of months a year during the winter in the warm sunshine.
I can now live for what makes me happy. I can do what I want, when I want, and I can even watch what I want on TV at night.
I absolutely love my single life. I have spent the last 13 years spoiling myself and have no desire to change anything.

I am right where I want to be. I worked so hard for so many years to end up here, but, for me, it was all worth it.

I have wonderful kids, I get to spend a couple of months a year during the winter in the warm sunshine.
I can now live for what makes me happy. I can do what I want, when I want, and I can even watch what I want on TV at night.
I absolutely love my single life. I have spent the last 13 years spoiling myself and have no desire to change


Amen Gem:). Me too! Sail on and enjoy

I'm over fifty and divorced almost nine years now. I would never do online dating. I caught the ex on several of those sites and he had the ability to change his personality to fit what a woman was looking for. Too many strange people in this world to do online dating.

I'm having too much fun right now and stay too busy to even think about anyone else in my life. My days are long and I work hard at what I love doing for now. I have a full life with two dogs, four cats and I board horses for extra money. I get to play on tractors and lawn mowers nearly every day.

I am 50 although I don't feel like it. Met my STBX on a dating site so not sure that I would do that again. If I ever decide to date again that is....lol

I am 57 and looking forward to finding myself once this roller coaster stops.

I'm 54 in a few months and I know for certain that life after 50 is tougher than before. My complaint is in regards to finding employment. My resumes don't even get responses! I can't meet employers face to face! I've worked part time for many years now while raising kids. STBX rarely helped, except with coaching sports. Now looking for full time, and although I'd love to pick up where I left off 18 years ago (in information technology - I'm a dinosaur now), it's not happening. I feel like a 20 something in terms of the jobs available to me - college degree, entry level. Been there, done that. This past week and the next two I'm doing a pharmacy chain store reset, where I work with a team and move all of the merchandise from one place to another. It's really physically demanding work, at a super fast pace for 10 hours straight. I get up at 3:00 am, try to figure out what I need to do (sounds simple but normal chores like feed the cats, take a shower, make sure things are ready for the kids when they wake up, pack up my stuff are *really hard* that early in the morning), leave at 4:00 am, and start work at 5:00am. It's for sure work for the younger set, but this one fell into my lap and the pay is better than I make substitute teaching.

Trying to get my STBX out of my life, but he's still hanging around, taking his time, stonewalling, taking things at his slug pace, which is absolutely torturous! I can't even think about dating. I don't trust that I won't fall into the same emotional trap with another guy. I'm pretty physically active, have always done all of the lawn and yard work and have always been exercise conscious (not overboard, just the goal of 3-4 days a week jog). I would love to meet other *people* (not just men) who also enjoy being outdoors, just to meet people socially. Most of my friends don't have the same outdoor interest I do. Dating? Too far off my radar, although a guy I was working with yesterday said I need to go get myself a boyfriend! I guess in his (much younger) eyes, he feels I've got a chance! Lol.