I'm 54.

We had our first visit with our attorneys yesterday. The STBX and I have chosen collaborative divorce. It was actually okay. I left feeling better, which I didn't think would happen.

I guess part of my worry about being divorced at my age is that I won't find another relationship eventually- even though that's not exactly on my radar right now.

Sixteen years of knowing and loving someone is a long time...I can't imagine ever being out in the dating scene again!

I just turned 50, does that count?

Sure!

I worry about meeting someone and having a relationship also. I am 59 and have tried online dating. The ones interested in me are much older and have few common interests.

Yes 50 counts.

I just turned 50

I'm 56. I don't get out much. So my chance of dating is low.

Tons of people our age are doing the online dating thing, but that really freaks me out. I have an online female friend in her early sixties who was recently (unexpectedly) widowed. She leapt headlong into online dating and I was really amazed to learn that most of her "dates" expected sex immediately, almost like it was a craigslist hook-up.

I'm the type who likes to meet potential partners through friends or like minded events. When I'm healed from this fiasco, I will head out into outdoorsy meet-ups in my area.

In my case, being a lesbian, my chances are really going to suck.

I tried the online dating and it's true most of the woman I met just wanted to hook up. I was like FUGETABOUTIT that's not me and I don't care if it makes me look old fashioned or square. It is who I am.

Was in a seriously dysfunctional marriage for way too long. Even tho I've been divorced several years, I am more interested in falling madly in love with myself than anyone else.

While it would be nice to have a male friend to do things with, I have no interest in online dating. Frankly, it scares the b'jeebees out of me. At least in my area.

Here are some examples of what is on one dating site:

The guys my age are looking:

*for my other half (please find your other half before you start dating)

*someone to complete me (yikes! I don't even want to know which parts are missing and I sure don't want the responsibility of completing another person)

*for a 'good christian woman' (been burnt by too many 'good christians')

*for someone to take care of me

*for a good old country girl

*good cook & housekeeper

*for our last love (how depressing is that?)

*for an extremely young gorgeous mate (this 'I think I would be a great catch' man has a "mansion in the woods.")

*for "a normal classy lady for long term /marriage."

This has got to be my all time favorite:

"looking for permanent love and someone to screw. I am a Christian and a Sunday school teacher at the Baptist church I attend."

All I can say is eeeeeeeeeeeewwwww!

With such enticing come-ons like that, all I can do is laugh.

Stick to your guns, Wakan...I'm sort of old fashioned, too. I can't fathom jumping into a sexual relationship without even knowing if I like the person or not, much less their sexual history, STD status, etc. I know we're not technically "seniors" yet, but seniors are the fastest growing population for HIV infection these days.

52 soon to 53

and just starting to date, ohhhh boooooy & uggg

Ok....rather than spending all my time alone at home...UGH....and I did

I did the online dating....I had a couple of wonderful shorter relationships....one that was 9 months that was great....but turned sour

BUT....I had some wonderful coffee and dinner dates with interesting women I would never have met.....and made some friends too

there were some not so good experiences.....but I was so thankful to have that way of being able to connect with possibilities....it gave me hope and did help with my depression

My current girlfriend, i knew for years through work and we are very happy......But I will not negate the benefit of online resourses.
it was lonely enough after my EX left, but this really helped alot

I'm 58 I filed for divorce after 22 years.