How serious is your relationship? I had issues with trust with my fianc and he gave me his email password as a token of trying to build trust. I told him that he could easily have another email account. He told me that I may not like what I would read all his communication from his previous short relationship when we had split up was there. Yep, I didn't like what I read. At all. He also told me that had he wanted, he could have erased his messages and texts.

If your guy wants trust and you want trust, being an open book is a must. Would you give your passwords to him and vise versa? I'll be honest, I had a tough time even thinking of offering mine as I have all kinds of shenanigans in my email that goes way back but, that would be a double standard of me, eh? I finally offered when the reality hit me about openness as it work both ways. He turned my offer down and I was relieved which that bothered my conscience and I decided to purge my past remnants and look forward.

In a nutshell, if you are in a committed relationship, honesty and willing to be an open book, is a must. Ask him if he is willing to be open and you would need to be willing as well. If he doesn't agree, you'll have an answer and save you money and stress in following and becoming suspicious. I'm sure this is unconventional but, my therapist adviced it to me.

Go with your gut and walk away before you have to much vested in the relationship

I'm tending to agree with MsViv, if you have these feelings, any joy, comfort and pleasure is undermined by your doubts and fears...better to walk away and find someone who doesnt give you any doubt.

See that's the problem, I don't know if I will never have these feelings--the lack of trust with anyone. That's why I'm saying it may be me or it may not be. I have stated my feelings and peace snd if I find out anything I'm outta there.

but you are doubting him enough that you want to catch him

thats different than the once-burnt-twice-shy stuff

right?

I would think, this time around, one would want someone who wouldn't say they bent over in front of me what was I do to? Versis, someone who would tell that person who bent over to take it somewhere else they are involved with someone. Her text was her way of touching base to see if he was interested in what she was putting out. If he responded, he is playing the game with her.

Its up to you if its ok for someone you are dating to be able to play with others in this fashion.

I would never give anyone my passwords for anything no matter who they are. I don't think giving someone a password is an ultimate trust deal. That's giving permission to spy.

Trust is a lot deeper then knowing who someone is talking to.. It's a feeling you have inside knowing if the person will have your back no matter what.

If you know you will never have that feeling with anyone then it's best just to make it more of a casual relationship.

Write out your pros and cons about the person.. Which list is longer?

And go with your gut, it's the only thing that doesn't lie. We just usually chose to ignore it.