Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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tynee5511 09/23/2016

So the other day I thought he and I would exchange my son for the first time and I had unbelievable anxiety with the fact that I have moved on a little bit within this short time but I haven't seen him face-to-face and I'm afraid that that hurt will come back up once I see him there's really no way to avoid it because we have to I would just like some tips on how to handle seeing him without feeling anything maybe that's not even possible

thecaretaker 09/23/2016

Think success. Envision yourself as a winner. Head high and in control. Be strong for your little guy! Make him proud of you.

samantha717 09/23/2016

Can you bring a friend with you? What has worked for me is scheduling a therapy appointment for right after a meeting I know will produce anxiety. If you can't do that, schedule something fun and relaxing for yourself after the drop off like a massage or a manicure. I'm sure this will get better with time.

tynee5511 09/23/2016

It's going to be tonight I was thinking of staying on the phone w a friend since I can't take one with me. I know he will wonder why I'm on the phone but I think the encouragement from my friend will distract me is that immature

samantha717 09/23/2016

That is a great idea! Let him wonder. You don't owe him any explanations.

tynee5511 09/23/2016

Now things have taken a totally different turn he wants me to bring my son to his family members house when he's not home and he doesn't know them he's only 3 years old and I don't feel comfortable with that he told me have him there when he tells me to or don't bring him at all well I really wanted him to see him I don't want my son to feel uncomfortable around people whom he does not know and to top it off his uncle lives with a prostitute

QuietStorm 09/23/2016

oh no, his bad! He is acting like YOUR losing if he doesn't see his son. He is the one losing time and more than anything your son. You guys should figure out some way to drop your son off to each other but leaving him with strangers isn't the right way.

tynee5511 09/23/2016

Thank you I didn't think it maDE any sense

mynewnormal 09/24/2016

a great tool that helped me when I had no choice but to interact with my ex.. during child exchanges, dont look him in the eye.. avoid eye contact, and the only topic open for discussion is the kids.. and quick exchanges, good luck.. I'm almost 2 years post divorce, and those exchanges are still a challenge at times, but the no eye contact really does help keep you strong :)

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