3 years ago my wife left after 24 years..my mom died a few months later and my dog a few months after that. I was at the END...now I'm much better. Please give it time. It will work out. Your brain will work through this grief and you'll be so much stronger you'll be a force to be reckoned with. Trust me. Take care.

I know how you feel. Im feeling the same way. I'm sorry hear about your cat. Like you, I'm having anxiety attack as well..Actually I'm having one right now, which is why I'm here trying to find a refuge and comfort.

While reading your post, it feels like I was writing it myself except that I don't know if my ex-wife has someone else(I don't want to know or entertain the thought), I hope you have someone you can verbally vent out. Hang in there.. hugs! I hope we both feel better soon.

The whole separation and divorce time was bad between
The grieving, legal stuff, lawyers, the financials, the GF, still
Trying to go work and be present.

I was on overload and overwhelm. The uncomfortable feelings
and emotions were coming at me continuously. Never mind the
Grief, pain, hurt and rejection.

I cried for 4 months whenever i got the chance anyways. The
grief just Consumes you. Your STBX is being a jerk because of
Them wanting Out and they are filled with guilt and shame if
they have a new partner waiting.

Sorry about the loss of your cat, do not expect any decency from
Your stbx. They want out as cheaply as they can get away with to
Move on with their new life, HUGS

Thanks everyone I so have a good support system my parents and some close friends. They say I can talk to them anytime which is amazing. I just hate feeling like this it's the worst rollercoaster ride I have ever been on

So sorry your going through this. As I read your post and that of others it makes be feel a bit stronger knowing that I am not alone. I will be fine and then I start thinking whether my husband is texting or calling another girl I start gagging bc all I want to do is throw up . He has cheated on me several times and every time he says he wants to change and us to be better while at the same time making it harder to get through this with his actions. I know it's hard but try to think of it as out of sight out of mind. I'm now getting the courage little by little to walk away, we have a 3 year old so it will be difficult bc we will have to coparent. But try to appreciate the times
You are alone and honestly at peace. Hang in there YOU will get through this

I call it divorce/separation anxiety. You feel Like you
Will climb the walls if you don't express Yourself and
release some of the uncomfortable feelings And emotions
That keep coming and they are intense ones.

You can try to journal that helps in a Pinch i found. Some
meditate or at least listen to Meditaion music. Its hard to
concentrate on Anything for very long.

85% of your energy is being used for your Grief, Emotions
and feelings that leaves you 15% To cope with the rest of
your life. Divorce care has a chart.

The grieving slows down after awhile and the spiking
Or triggers aren't as intense. Grief is Linear and everyone
is different. Think of yourself Like a widow and it gives
you more understanding of whats happening to you.

It is the death of your Marriage and relationship plus
All Your other losses combined which are very difficult
to bear. HUGS

This may have been mentioned before but try to find a Divorce Care group in your area. They understand anxiety and everything else that goes with a divorce.

It took about 7 years to get financially free from the ex. I was so scared I would lose my farm. That I couldn't pay the bills. Each time I had to go to court that was terribly upsetting.
We all get thru our divorces in our own way and learn to live and thrive without a spouse in our lives.

Take it one day at a time and I was advised no contact by most on the board and it helped me cope a lot better once I found the strength to go cold turkey and start working on finding my self. Hand in there you will be ok at some point.

No contact really helps. I was put on meds for anxiety. It is only temporary. I've never had anxiety before in my life but it was too much to deal with all at once. After 22 years it seemed like the world was caving in on me. Exercise also helped me relieve some stress. I joined a divorce group too. All these things have helped. It's been over 6 months now so yes...time does help. Take care of yourself now and stay strong. Long road ahead but we can all get through this
-HUGS-

for me its finding things to do for you as well as reading about divorce to get a sense that you're not alone and how best to cope, and for those who hope to reconcile there is a whole lot of support to be had as well