Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Woke up around 4:45 a.m. and enjoyed a split second of peace before the reality hit me. He's gone. Tried to go back to sleep, but the thoughts wouldn't let me, so I got up 5:15. Fed the pets--discovered that the dog (again) peed in the living room--he's been upset. Make a mental note to contact the dog trainer sometime...when I can think straight. Make coffee with cinnamon creamer because the vanilla we loved reminds me of him. Make myself take a shower -- as short as I can get away with, because showering reminds me that he'll never touch my body again. Get online and check my email (including the trash folder where his emails would end up now). Nothing. Sitting on his side of the couch because it hurts less than sitting on my side and seeing the emptiness. Look online for something to replace the painting he did that used to hang over the tv. Mental note to remind my daughter to check when her friend is going to pickup the dining set he and I refinished together. The white cat comes over for some attention--he misses him. Wonder when and if I will be able to take a nap today. If I will be able to concentrate on work today. If there is anything I can do to make myself happy today. Look forward to my therapist appt. tonight. Look into quilting classes and get annoyed that they only hold them weekdays. Try and think of something else to fill my time and occupy my mind. Wonder again if he thinks of me, misses me, loves me. Try not to wonder if he is with her. Decide to get dressed and walk the dog because it's better than sitting here wondering if he thinks/misses/loves me or is with her. Long day.
It's only 6:30 a.m.
I wish I could know if he at least had SOME feelings.....
if you are like m, you'll dwell on how much you loved him and gave everything
people are supposed to get their self-image from themselves, from whether you can say you were genuine, where you weren't
if you were married for a long time... how can you not see yourself as your partner sees you
"you" gave your best and they scrape "you" out of their lives like dogshit off the heel of their shoe
i've been there
i've felt that i was dogshit
You aren't
your worth comes from what you give
you gave yourself
in time, sorry it may take a lot of time, you'll start to feel better & you'll see that you have more to give, you are at your best when you are giving, you'll get back on your feet more and more
you will enjoy sunshine again
My boyfriend broke up with me just shortly after a close family member died. I hate that I will associate these two events with each other, and moreso that he just chose to leave when I really needed him and additionally, that he left me without any sense of closure. He just told me that he didn't want to be in a relationship and that he never wanted to speak to me again.
I have a lot of abandonment issues. And I hate this heavy feeling I now have, despite having absolutely no appetite. This part of myself that I had given to someone else is now clumsily thrown back onto my frame and I have to fix it and make it a part of me again until I am ready to give it to the next person. I doubt I ever will be. Who can want this hand-me-down damaged part of me? I don't think anyone will. My heart is just broken.