Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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playerapr 07/14/2015

I'm so weak when it comes to him urgh!!!!!!! So I texted him last night and he didn't reply right away and here I am with this anxiety waiting for his response. I told myself I was going to stay away but I couldn't. He is always polite and sweet when he replies to me and it just makes it harder to stay away. Wish he was an as*** and tell me to fuc* off it would make things easier. I just feel disappointed with myself. Trying to find some closure.

steppingovertheedge 07/14/2015

Go easy on yourself. What you are going through is incredibly hard. There will be small failures along the way, but you can go right back to no contact starting.. right now.

One thing I have read on this board and truly believe is that you will NOT get closure from him. Nothing he can say about why happened will make you feel better. It may very well make you feel worse. Closure will come from you, not him. And it will take time and grieving - experiencing the pain, anger, anxiety, and all the rest. I am right there with you going through it.

Good luck and be strong. Keep posting here as needed. Lots of good and insightful people here to help out.

milliejay 07/14/2015

I know how you feel. Sit tight, it will get better in time. One day at a time, do your best. Good luck.

betsybh 07/14/2015

Oh my gosh, I'm going through the same thing. Why can't I just block his number and let the man go??

yougospam 07/14/2015

Have done that many times, even recently. Mine is very nice to me too, that makes it harder to let him go. Do I want to keep him as a friend? Maybe, too soon to think about that. I consider him my addiction and it does lessen with time, lots of time!
We really are much better off by not contacting them. I took him out of my phone not that long ago BUT his ph# is engraved in my mind and heart forever.
I don't know your story but you may never get closure. I am learning that the hard way. I have to force myself to look forward not back and not worry anymore about the why's, how could he, could I have done anything differently. I don't worry about closure, I think realizing I'll never get it has removed some of those questions we continually ask ourselves. Let it all go.
It's hard, I know. Everyone here knows what you're going through, it really is one day at a time. Be gentle with yourself. Hugs!

playerapr 07/15/2015

Thanks everybody! I have deleted his number a few times but it is engraved in my mind. I have blocked his number too but I do it for a few days and then I unblocked it. Argh!!
One day at a time is all I have.

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