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Long story short, I have been "long distance dating" a girl from Baltimore for 6 months now. After an initial bump in the road in January, thing have been great and she has been excited to move down here to Florida. Last week after a great visit here, she called the next day and stated she wes "nervous and had an anxiety attack" over the reality of moving down here. She stated it "started hitting her" that this is real and she is now nervous and scared.
This is what she said: "We need to take a few steps back and I need to make sure this is the right thing for me". I respect this and understand this completely.
However she then stated "I think I would like to LOSE THE BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND TITLE. HOWEVER I STILL LOVE AND YOU AND I'M STILL IN LOVE WITH YOU AND SEE A FUTURE WITH YOU".
Am right to be worried that I'm losing her at this point or am I overreacting over a simple title?
Thanks for any help.
This is what she said: "We need to take a few steps back and I need to make sure this is the right thing for me". I respect this and understand this completely.
However she then stated "I think I would like to LOSE THE BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND TITLE. HOWEVER I STILL LOVE AND YOU AND I'M STILL IN LOVE WITH YOU AND SEE A FUTURE WITH YOU".
Am right to be worried that I'm losing her at this point or am I overreacting over a simple title?
Thanks for any help.
It's what that title represents that would trouble me. Why would she feel like she wanted to lose the title? Who does she want to tell she is single?
I might be jaded... well... probably am, but I would see this as an opening move to a split.... and it might be prudent for you to pull back yourself. To protect yourself.
I hope I'm wrong and I wish you the best of luck.
You have two realistic choices:
1. Totally and absolutely break up and never speak to her again. Do it nicely and very sensitively.
2. Move to Baltimore, court her as a gentleman, and marry her within two years.
Anything else is going to be a nightmare. Good luck.
Loose the BF/GF titles, but still in love and future?????? Is this a hint at marriage? Other than breaking up to loose the title marriage only seems to be the only other option. Hmmmmm
Maybe she is worried about being dependent upon you while she looks for work. When I was a SAHM with two kids I still felt like I wasn't pulling my weight financially even though money couldn't buy what I was contributing at the time. Kind of made me feel trapped.
If you are serious about her, accept her no title request and make sure she's ok with dating others. Even if you don't date, have fun, be independant and if she's serious, she'll straighten up.
Good luck ranger!
It takes a very special type of woman to marry an active duty soldier. She must be strong, decisive, independent and be able to hold down the fort, no matter what. Be sure to pick one that can do that, Ranger.