We share a house still. We are going to do a legal seperation first to provide her with insurance etc for now.

Living in the same home feels like living in a haunted house where the ghosts of my / our past continue to appear in front of me. I understand the feeling of being alone.

For me, I miss hugs too. That was my fuel to surviving anything. Like you I have accepted where I am. I miss someone whispering I love you in my ear. I think the feeling of not being needed and being useless is the hardestfor me. So I get the lonely.

I hope you find solace, comfort and peace. This is not some place I would like to see anyone in. Gentle hugs.

I too am going through this and it sucks. The best advise I can give you is to fight through the feeling, IT DOES GET EASIER!! I never thought I utter those words but it's true. When my Ex left on 1/15/16 I would have panic attacks being out around people, 5 months later I'm totally different. Am I 100% around other people, no but I'd bet I'm close to 75%, well on my way to 100%.

I forgot to mention that I love Sushi. Well when she 1st left I was unable to go myself for Sushi, then Friday night I dragged myself to go and was totally stressed the whole time I was there.

Now: Friday is my Sushi night, ALONE! I look so forward to it, being able to sit at the Sushi bar and people watch a bit.

See my point?

Meant to say "then one Friday night" (a few weeks back)

I think the loneliness is just part and parcel to divorce. I first really started experiencing it about 2.5 years ago, when I realized I was invisible to him. I hated going to events with him where other couples are together (New Years, graduations, weddings) because I looked at the other couples and saw what I didn't have (who knows what other couples really have, though.) Still married, still feel lonely, but much more accepting of the why's. And not dragging myself into those situations anymore where I have to sit/stand next to him (well, there are a couple of upcoming celebrations for our son, but those I can do for our son).

I think if you focus on the future, on what will make you happy, and get busy achieving what you want for yourself, you'll focus less on others and what you think they have. I wish I could be like NYRFan and go out to eat by myself, I'm not there just yet, except in a food court or at Five Guys. Baby steps.

jojored, like you said "baby steps". I still have many struggles but Friday night sushi is not one of them for the following reasons:

1- I walk to the sushi place, about 3.5 miles round trip. So I feel good about that.

2- Before going into eat I stop and look around my favorite store, Home Depot. Somehow always buying something, lol!

3- I enjoy a couple of glasses of wine with my sushi as I "people watch".

4- It gets me out of the house and is helping me to fight that "alone in the crowd feeling".

Hopefully these nights will help me to overcome my other struggles........Again baby steps!

Felix

Yup, isn't this part of self-care? Sushi makes you happy, so you focused and found a way to enjoy it again. Good for you!

I find while i have some good things happening overly i am just sad. Like if i do stuff its with my kids, if they arent there i am just alone. I havent been doing anything fun and kinda feeling i have no life right now. I hope it gets better but its hars to be enthusiastic wit so many emotions. We cant even get along fpr kids and its draining the life out of me.

If you have not already, GET a dog!!!!!!!!!


They will NEVER leave you!
:-)

Paste, I have 3 kids, 2 dogs, a cat, and a bunny. As I'm typing this, I can hear the older dog snoring...loudly!