Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I'm still reeling from my divorce. I can't seem to get past it. I've done everything from diet and exercise to counselling and holidays. I threw myself into my work. I've started writing again, I've drank and danced and everything I can think of to feel better but nothing is working for me.
I still wake up every morning thinking about her and how much I love her as I did every day we were together. I still think about her and what she would think when I make a decision as if it still affects her too. I still fight back the tears on a regular basis and quietly scream from time to time.
I hate the way I am now and I don't see any way of improving. I just want to feel better. I have no idea what made her so unhappy as I did everything to prevent her from feeling that way. But that's what she told me "I'm just not happy"
"why aren't you happy sweetness?"
"I don't know I'm just not any more" I married her for the rest of my life and said those words with meaning. I was willing to fight for us but she wasn't.
I know she gone and that I should move on. Trust me I'm trying. But there's no end in sight to this nightmare. She's happy according to our mutual friends but that's little comfort to me any more. I know I should be happy for her. it's the right thing to do. but I just can't feel it. I'm sick of being cast off. Wish there was a road map back to a life I could be happy with but how do you repair yourself when you can't even find all the pieces?
I just want to know why she wasn't happy so I can fix the flaws in myself that caused this. I just want to feel that I can be happy alone so I can once again be happy with other people too. I miss having someone to come home to, and having some hope for my future.
I'm miserable without her and I don't see that changing any time soon.
I still wake up every morning thinking about her and how much I love her as I did every day we were together. I still think about her and what she would think when I make a decision as if it still affects her too. I still fight back the tears on a regular basis and quietly scream from time to time.
I hate the way I am now and I don't see any way of improving. I just want to feel better. I have no idea what made her so unhappy as I did everything to prevent her from feeling that way. But that's what she told me "I'm just not happy"
"why aren't you happy sweetness?"
"I don't know I'm just not any more" I married her for the rest of my life and said those words with meaning. I was willing to fight for us but she wasn't.
I know she gone and that I should move on. Trust me I'm trying. But there's no end in sight to this nightmare. She's happy according to our mutual friends but that's little comfort to me any more. I know I should be happy for her. it's the right thing to do. but I just can't feel it. I'm sick of being cast off. Wish there was a road map back to a life I could be happy with but how do you repair yourself when you can't even find all the pieces?
I just want to know why she wasn't happy so I can fix the flaws in myself that caused this. I just want to feel that I can be happy alone so I can once again be happy with other people too. I miss having someone to come home to, and having some hope for my future.
I'm miserable without her and I don't see that changing any time soon.
For me it helps when I go out and help somebody. I need to get out of my own way sometimes.
Hang in there. Better times are ahead, but you might have to put the work in and overcome this depression BS before you realize it and get there.
Keeping you in my thoughts
So now when I start to spiral I remind myself of all I did do, how I fought for us. He had to engage. That was his choice and he chose not to. That is my pain... but it isn't my responsibility.
I suspect you won't be able to move on until you can come to terms with that too. Some things aren't in your control. Losing your ex may have been one of them. It sucks. And it is painful. But, for me, coming to that realization has been key
It's not you.
That breakup grief is awful, and it sounds like yours is just relentless. Have you considered some appointments with a therapist to help you release some of that pain? You deserve to be happy in your life, too.