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Almost to the end here..

GuyInDarkness
GuyInDarkness
Im hating life, everything just seems like nothing.. I can't find joy or laughter in anything... I'm so fucking lost, I saw her other day we hungout together we talked, enjoyed each others company, then eventually it led to other things, "sex". After we just talked more cuddled, but she then tells me that she still likes this guy she has been seeing telling me that she would like to rebuild with me, but doesn't want a relationship right now?, she then tells me she could end up in a relationship with him, I'm telling her "oh so you don't want a relationship with me? I thought were trying to rebuild here?" she tells me she dont know what she want, but that she doesn't want to loose me...but she told me she might start a relationship with that guy, but doesn't want me to disappear? Wtf she told me she wasn't ready for a relationship. I'm just fucking tired...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Omg. Just reading that got me dizzy. You're going to have to take a stand here. Really. You're either going to allow her to jerk you around or you aren't. She's using you. If you're OK with that, don't complain. If you aren't OK with being played, you need to set some boundaries and break it off if she continues this behavior.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sounds familiar, I was told the exact same thing less than a week ago. I said, you can't have both. Choose. They chose the "not me" option. I have anxiety most days, nights are worse. But I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. At least I know I will be heading in a direction without them.
brandnewangel
brandnewangel
she stringing you along, i personally would walk away and never look back
deleted_user
deleted_user
you sure are not going to find any joy if you keep her in your life or anyone else like that. she is a real piece of work.

i remember when i was young my then wife had an affair. she told me that she loved both of us.

translation: she didn't love EITHER of us.

i hope that the next time you pick someone with her head screwed on right.
lonelygal27
lonelygal27
Gosh, sure confused - just like my BF.
Wanting to have her cake and eat it too.
be strong, take a stand. don't waste any time like I did it's just a vicious circle going back again and again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Random comment -- faithful's comment just reminded me of how the OW, who turned out to be my married friend and trusted employee, told me, upon my discovering the affair she was having with my ex while working for me, that she "loved us both" referring to me and my ex - WTF? Confusing, yeah!
deleted_user
deleted_user
P.S. They are both in my rear view mirror now. Hoping they disappear altogether someday soon!