That is still a concern...she is too nice a person to have to endure a bunch of crappy opinions of others.....

hey if there's no profile on her license go for it. you're only gettn' dinner wink wink ... seriously don't feed anything else into it. Just go have some fun.

Totally agree with saturated...

Lynne

I see that everyone here is being very supportive of you, so I hate to break this streak. I have to say, though, as a mother, that if my 18-year-old daughter started to date someone more than twice as old as she was, or someone as old or older than her father, I would be concerned. I'm not sure I'd feel that different if she were 25 rather than just 18. Sorry--just expressing my opinion. I respect that you are being cautious and thoughtful about this.

Ya I dated one younger guy and I think it was that he liked that I was more mature and was knew what I wanted. Plus I could just have fun and not worry about all the small things.

That is why I am here...If my daughter were dating an OLDER man I would have reservations also... I even mentioned that to her and she said that she may explain to him that it was just dinner and that she is an adult....

Go to dinner and see from there. Don't make yoursel a wreck before anyhing is even started. Just go and enjoy lots of younger women like older men they are easier to talk with.

Cat, you should go have dinner and see if she is someone that you would want to be friends with. Trust your gut instincts. Is she looking for a friend, lover, sugar daddy, ring? What are you looking for from it? Tough questions, but they can save you a lot of heartache later.
I bring up the sugar daddy scenario because you did mention that this is an upscale establishment that you've met her at...there's nothing wrong with that possibly, but remember that you don't truly know her yet either. Be prepared for anything.

How about just having DINNER without expectations? Make sure it's good food should the conversation is not stimulating this way your brain can say "NOM NOM NOM" about the food and phase her out.

Really...it's dinner.

Hey there, J! You really need MY opinion on this one? As everyone here so rightfully put it....it's dinner. AND, you are a wonderful, charismatic man...why WOULDN'T she want to ask you out? You ARE the CAT'S meow...pun intended. Honestly, If you think she is someone you would enjoy spending the evening getting to know over DINNER, then why not go for it? Best case, she's as sweet as you said and turns out to be great. Worst case, you spent the evening getting to know a new friend. You CAN do this. JUST MAKE SURE SHE'S GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOUR COMPANY! Hugs to you, J! Love, Wish

Well, I am an older woman who gets asked out by younger men all the time, and I decline.I think you are having a hard time with this as I did, when It was brought up to me 6 months ago.What I learned in dating guys my own age or older is that I like a younger attitude, and that age does not necessarily make you spiritual or mature. So based on that and after having dated 14 men from age 50 to 66, I am going younger. I have accepted a date from a 35 yr old and will be going out with a 32 yr old next. I am going for coffee, and after having spoken to these guys for months. They have been wooing me for a long time, and are both respectable, sharing, kind men, so why should a matter of age keep me from going out and potentially having the best date I have had yet. Yes, My attitude has changed in the six months I have been dating,, thanks fo Mojo and in talking with some of these young men. LMAO. Go for it, and have a great time!! Hugs Kimmee

Hey J - I think you are selling yourself short here. She probably see's in you what a lot of us who know you see in you. A wonderful, caring, gentle man who can offer a girl friendship, understanding and love. When you meet someone and it just clicks, you know it. If it clicks for you why wouldn't it click for her. Age is not a factor here just as race, religeon and social status should not be factors either.

Go have dinner with this woman. Put your reservations aside and get to know the woman who is pursuing you. If either of you become uncomfortable with it you will know and nothing will have been lost. But, this woman could become the light in your life and you have to trust in God that she was brought into your life at this time for a reason.

If you don't at least have dinner with her, you will never know what that reason is.

You are as young as you feel and I'm sure she see's something in you that maybe you don't see in yourself just yet after years of verbal and mental abuse.

I say, give the girl a chance. Hugs buddy.

Go for it, Go for it, Go for it. Do you get the hint. Go out with her and see where it goes.

Thank you all for your advice and opinions....now for some personal time to think it out...There is a restuarant that I want to try.....maybe.....I will let you know...AJJ

dont think too much .. just do