Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
It has now been a little over 3 months (Nov ’16) since I learned of my ex-husband’s affair with a married woman, over a year after he left and divorced me. (He never had the balls to come clean, even after we were divorced. It wasn’t until I uncovered evidence he had no choice but to admit to it.)
In November, the wound was reopened to a huge gash and the healing process had to start all over again, but I am so far ahead of where I was. This is a post of optimism to let the people know who are still in the thick of the storm, that eventually, the wind will stop, the rain will cease and the clouds will part to show the beautiful sunshine.
I have lost 10 pounds and still losing, I am getting back into the shape I was before the divorce and doing things I never would’ve done had I still been married. In the past 3 months, I have:
1. Taken group dance lessons where most people go as couples. I went as a single and am enjoying every minute of it.
2. Attended a Speed Dating event. This one even surprises me. But I’m going to do it again.
3. Made a few wonderful new friends whom otherwise I never would’ve met.
4. Started sleeping incredibly well.
5. Seen every day that I have as a blessing and try to make the most of each day.
6. Taken an aerial yoga class (and I will be doing it again)
7. Taken an introductory spinning class and have now done it a few times.
8. Signed up for a singles Tango Dance Event in Philly that I will be doing at the end of this month.
9. Been happier and healthier for my kids (only 1 lives at home, but I talk to the other 3 regularly).
10. Conversations with my parents and siblings no longer revolve around the drama that was my life. The texts and phone calls are now about everyday family things. Exactly what they should be.
If you are in the middle of your storm, hold on for dear life because it is going to take you for one hell of a ride. But when it's over, you will come out of the darkness a better, stronger, happier person.
It does take awhile to work thru all the Pain and
hurt. There was no quick or easy route i have found
after a long term marriage and then a divorce.
It is nice to have normal conversations again, any
Thing to do with my ex, my storm clouds and crazy
Can startup. I admit i am not sane or rational where
He is concerned yet. I am getting better the more
Detached and removed from anything to do with him.
I can not wait for the day when its only a dull ache. I was
told the more i learned to Love myself the less i would
Love him and could and will let him go. HUGS
-HUGS-
Jojo- I feel my "boldness" came when I hit bottom post-divorce...like a Phoenix out of the ashes rising.. I don't feel I'm being bold, I'm just choosing to live life to the fullest. We can all reach that point eventually!
Ripped-this will be your story some day! Do not use anyone else's timeline to determine when you'll get there. Work through all your pain and heartache at your pace!
Newbeginnings- it took about 2 years from when the time when my ex walked out on our family. i dreaded bedtime because sleep eluded me. I now have a nightly bedtime ritual and am asleep most nights witihin 10 minutes.
Life after Divorce so good to see this post.