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Advice to a young woman

Reaching4Me
Reaching4Me

So it's been about a month that my exmy first love  of 8 years have been broken up. I know it's for the good but I guess I don't understand why it's so hard for me to move on or to get out to live for once. I have depression and anxiety but idk how to reach out for it. I'm embarrassed for allowing myself to get to this point and I just want to be able to be happy again without the fear that I'll be reminded of him. I want to just move away but I can't keep running from the pain of this long overdue break up. I need to learn myself again but I barely have the energy to get out the house and enjoy my time out without rushing back. I just need some advice no matter how brutally honest bc I feel lost and idk how to find myself from this. 


Shaner23
Shaner23
I understand my husband left me and it's only been 2 weeks but I need to move on too. It's hard.
Reaching4Me
Reaching4Me
The most painful thought is knowing someday he could give all the love and hardwork that I put into him and give it to someone else. Im only 24 I have a full life ahead of me. I'm motivated but I can't bring myself to take action on my word
copingwith2
copingwith2
It is a grieving process when you lose someone, even in a relationship. As much as your mind is telling you to move on your heart isn't there yet. everyone keeps telling me give it time, but time is moving slowly, and it probably is for you as well. Happiness will come (or so I am told), but it takes time. Give yourself some time to acknowledge the pain and the loss.
Reaching4Me
Reaching4Me
I appreciate that thank you
sleepless1
sleepless1
8 years is a long time to spend with someone. You can't expect that all of those memories and all of your love will be erased in just a month. I am at the 6 week mark of my husband leaving. I find it hard to get out of bed at times as well. But I FORCE myself to do things I don't really feel like doing. I also allow myself time to cry and grieve. I literally say to myself, "Okay, you've got 15 minutes to cry it out" and then I get up and do something else. Anything else. Don't beat yourself up. Its fresh. And there is no proper way to get through the heartache. There is also no proper time frame. It might take 2 months or it could take 10 months. Don't beat yourself up. I would love to be 24 again by the way!! You have so many great things ahead of you!!!!
Reaching4Me
Reaching4Me
I love your advice. And I appreciate that!! I guess I felt like I was doing it wrong I should be moved on lol I really really needed to hear that. I'm glad you are staying strong and pushing others to do the same through all of our healing process. That really meant alot to me !!