Nope, never had. I am not sure I could get past it if I tried to stay. I feel underneat there would be some sort of feelings to where I may not be able to be fully in the relationship with them again for fear they weren't really in it themselves.

I think for me, once someone doesnt put in all of what one can or should put in to a relationship, it make it hard for me to buy in.

I don't think I would ever be able to trust that person again and there are just too many fish in the sea for me to waste my time on a loser like that. Let him be someone else's problem. I'd figure that he had his chance to be with me and he blew it.

I gave it a try. It just delayed the inevitable. Ended up wasting another 2 years of my life. I will never put myself thru that torment again. Once the trust is lost, it's a miserable existence second guessing everything they say or do. I'd rather be single,

Oh snap! @ Samantha and Lamar.

Once a cheat...always a cheat.

My husband cheated. At one point I think her genuinely regretted it and wanted to try with me.

But, here's the thing - I now know that he does not have the strength of character required to be in a relationship. He is fundamentally a coward. He can't stand to be uncomfortable. So. Easier for him to lie to me than face real issues Nd easier to run to another woman for "free" petting.

I could never tust him because he does not have the strength to act with integrity. So, done.

I'm in my 50s and the live-in boyfriend who cheated on me was a dating website serial dater. They never change and you never win. It took me a very long time and a lot of heartache and wasted time, to finally realize that not only was it NOT about whether he would change, it was actually about me getting smart and saying goodbye. When the next guy came along I dumped him the very first time I caught him having made a date with someone else. He was angry that I didn't give him a second chance after having given the other guy soooo many chances! I told him it was because I LEARNED THE LESSON.

@JeanaRose...I learned that lesson with my ex husband some 12 years ago. Caught my exbf doing the same...dumped him 20 days ago. Hurts like heck...only man I've ever been in love with. But once a cheat...always a cheat and wasn't about to put myself through that again.

It's a lesson I am learning but some days I literally can't get out of bed... or I find myself just overwhelmed with sadness

Let yourself grieve your Losses,there are stages of grief
and it Takes time to get to the acceptance Stage. I do hope
You go into therapy and/or if they they have breakup support
Groups in your area that would be helpful for you. HUGS

I know a few couples who have survived infidelity and come out on the other side stronger. I wish I could have been one of those couples. I tried so hard to fix my marriage after my husband cheated but I think we had a bad marriage counselor who only made it worse and he didn't seem to be giving it his all. He said he was but I never really saw anything. I changed everything about myself to be a better wife and the few things I asked of him never really happened. I miss the guy he was before he cheated so much but he has turned into a cold jerk. If the old guy would have resurfaced we could have made it but his loving demeanor because cold and he checked out. I think if both of you want it to work it can work. One of the couples I know just celebrated their 28th wedding anniversary. He cheated when their daughter was just 6 months old and they've made it 22 years after his affair. It's not going to be easy but you can do it if you want to. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks or does. It's about you and what you and your partner want. Hugs.

It's five years later and I am still struggling to get out of bed and face the world. I know I Just need to accept it's over and move on but I don't know how. I'm telling you this to let you know I know what you're going through and am so sorry. I'm also telling you because learn from my mistakes. I've wasted five years trying to make it work. I think it was good I dragged it out for a while because I know I did everything I could to make it work. If I hadn't done that I'd always have regrets.

Thank you it's a battle which route I want to go but I do lean more towards repairing as does he but everyone says leave him and it worries me that I'm making the wrong decision... I need to forgive first and heal and even see if the pieces can be put back together but it's nice to hear someone's story who has made it out the other side still together thank you for sharing

I love him so much more than words can explain and it's not that I'm afraid to let him go I'm not I just don't want to live with the regret on top of the pain of heartache that I could of saved us

My husband cheated on me for a year with someone I cared about very much. She was like a sister. It was the single biggest betrayal I have ever experienced. I left for three months. I came back. I think when you're cheated on you are left so broken that you almost want to give it another chance because you feel like it's your fault. You also want the hurt to go away and to get back what was taken from you.
I went back for these reasons and a million other ones. It's a very confusing time. A year has passed and I have lost all desire to continue our marriage. I thought when I came back I would be able to heal if he loved me enough. Nope! He tried at first but once he decided he'd done enough to make up for his betrayal he went right back to treating me like i didn't exist. I can tell you without a doubt that I don't regret giving him a second chance because now I know its really over.