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I feel like many families and people are falling apart because of addiction to technology and/ substance. I experienced this firsthand. Weed everyday pothead spending tons of money on that instead of his family. It's readily available and used as an escape from reality/responsibility. The earth provided it for medicinal properties and spiritual journeys once in a while....not every day!!!
A guy leaves his woman because he wants his girl to do what they do in porn...or has an affair with the woman who looks like Barbie and us women are forced to look like the Barbie to make our men happy. What happened to loving someone because they are beautiful on the inside?!?
It's all a vicious cycle and that's why I'm resorting to living in the 80s again. I own a box tv and that's it. I don't have an internet- cable service. I only use limited internet through my phone service and porn is not an option. I think it's having such a large impact on altering our perceptions on how we should be intimate with eachother. How odd of a fetish can you come up with? What's the next big bang? This is what it's come to and that's pretty sad.
What happened to true intimacy between husband and wife? A lot of couple's now require porn to even get off and that's very sad. Then men shut off to their woman because she doesn't do it like the porn star or doesn't look like a porn star. Why the hell have they become our idols? The whole industry should be banned.
I'm not religious. I just see how inhumane porn has made us. It's made us so detatched from our partners. It's like people nowadays have lost sight of what the purpose of relationships is because their model for it is porn. More and more people are dependent upon physical intimacy as the basis of their relationships. Not cool!! I believe this is why my ex was a douchebag. He did leave me for a model. Truth. Shallow.
Familyguy, I appreciate you spilling out your guts and being verbose which is awesome!! I get what you are trying to say in that it's ok for people to enjoy sex as long as they treat others with respect. I got that there is a fine line to be drawn between a man who looks at porn and chooses to let it negatively effect their relationships and a guy who views porn, expects that in reality and can't separate it from their relationships. Then ends up treating their woman like s***. Yet porn still does impact the brain chemistry and leads to mood disorders and/aggression. No doubt about it. There are scientific tests proving that it messes with the dopamine receptors in an unhealthy way to where a person becomes dependent on it to get the same high or an even greater high than before. You'll have to look it up. The science behind it is too complicated to explain now lol.
The thing that bothers me is when it becomes the driving influence behind our modern intimacy. I've heard from so many people/couple's that say they can't get off without porn. Who've totally disconnected from their partners and depend on machine and picture for stimulation. It's desensitized us. Like we can't connect with our partners anymore one on one. That's where true bonding begins and lasts. That's what kind of a relationship I want and I agree with Euphoria_Gnome that's the very reason I don't want to date someone who looks at porn. It's just not needed. There are so many things wrong with it.