I wish I could be more positive but in my case....he cheated again.

Why did you decide to commit debra?

Yes, I committed to someone that had admitted to me that he had cheated on his wife. I didn't think about him cheating on me, but it should have told me something about his character (which is bad).

I had a boyfriend several years ago that about 2 years into the relationship, I found he was on an adult-hookup website, talking to other girls.
I remember once year I did a whole bunch of really nice stuff fro him for his birthday.. and I found a message he went to this one girl saying no one got him anything and he didnt do anything for his birthday..
Its not feasible that he did anything physical with any of these girls, but I still consider that cheating. I broke up with him.
A few months later, we got back together. I thought he had learned his lesson and he wouldnt do it again. That we would move past it and be stronger for it.
We moved from NY to Texas together. 6 months later, I caught him doing it again.
I left his ass in TX.

So, the reasoning for continuing with the relationship is because he said he would be different and you believed him? Or did he ever promise to be different and later cheated anyway? Did he promise? Or did you assume?

Before marriage, no.

After we were married, yes.

And guess what? It happened again and again and.....

Before marriage, no sign whatsoever , after marriage no sign either. If came out of no where for me. Idk if I was clueless or he was just really good at hiding it

My ex was cheated on by his ex wife in his first marriage. I thought I was safe with him not ever doing that to me since it hurt him really bad. He told me this when we started our relationship, but the crazy thing is he cheated on me with his now GF.

I considered my husband a player when getting to know him but as far as cheating it was hard to tell because his ex wife gave him the green light to do a lot of things and used the kids as bait to keep him from leaving her? I thought in a sense she was the bigger player in the relationship but back then I felt all guys were players and it didn't really phase me too much because I didn't really care what happened to me in that phase of my life. Too much crqp had already happened to me and I had an extremely jaded look on men in general as well as the world.
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Did I think I could change behavior I didn't find appropriate.....sadly in a way yes. I felt that I would not give the green light for it and it would not happen the same way but .sadly he was programmed to get whatever he wanted which made it extremely difficult to have a relationship with him.

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Yes, he had promised. He apologized, he cried, he couldnt eat or sleep.
He forgot a year and a half later.

I committed because I love him. We have a long life together 18 years and children as well. This time though....I'm just can't stay. It's not fair to anyone, always excuses. It's hard when you still love.

What kind of excuse can you possibly have to cheat on someone? Repeatedly? So not right.

From now on anyone I date will be asked to describe their sexual habits. If they say anything close to Rabbit, I'm not dating them.

I agree that it's important to know what kind of sexual habits your potential lover/spouse/significant other had before. I am just curious if leopards ever change their spots, so to speak.

My husband has returned, at my request to start again. He seems very much like a different man, but some things are still the same. As a result, I am following my gut instincts.

He wanted very much to leave in 2009 and was very vocal about it. He wanted to live a different life. About a year later, he had many regrets and wanted to return. I said no. I was happy to be alone, even if I still loved him. The requests continued for 4 years until he finally met someone. The universe sent me a pocket call that changed it all for me. I asked him to reconsider us. He is home, and changed a lot for me, including shutting down his facebook, where a former lover seemed overly interested in his life.

Now, after learning about the life he wanted to lead, and did so, he wants to leave that all behind him and begin again with me. It's hard to rebuild trust. But I am choosing to let him show me this different man.

Yes, my X cheated on his former GF, and I don't think it's that I believed he wouldn't cheat on me...I was 18 when we met and wasn't much into thinking so deeply and analytically about life, etc.

He cheated on me while married, and I divorced him.

I know he cheated on his current GF whom he has been with for about 1.5 yrs.