I feel exactly the same, i wish i can go back a month and hear i love u, maybe there could've been something i say or do that would've made him stay. This new life for me is just to hard to deal with. I hope u feel better soon. Hugs

Thanks you too

The initial grief, hurt and pain is bad, intense and
Heart breaking.

Eventually as many of us know on here we start to
heal. I found the more you work on yourself and try
to get Honest things start getting better ever so slowly.

I played my part in the breakdown of the relationship. I
Had to own it and try to move past it the best i could.
Many times when its over its over and there are no redo's.
Many redo's don't work the second time around either.

I now wish i had not married my ex thats hindsight though
And the past is in the past and not much i can honestly Do
about the past except face it, heal, change, grow and move
thru it and eventually let it all go. That all takes time, HUGS

I'm very sorry. Just over a month ago I had a loving wife and now she is leaving for another. You are not alone.

It's so hard all I want to do is message him especially right now I just feel so alone

Unfortunately as I have learned, the more you message him or try and initiate contact, the further it will push him away. We must show confidence and strength in ourselves. Unfortunately people, like our spouses go through some kind of change and we are left wondering why. For the twelve years I spent dating and being married to my spouse, I knew she would always be by my side and true. Well she wasn't. It's heartbreaking but we must go forward and take care of ourselves and kids if their are any.

Call a friend, post on here, PM other members
Going thru like situations. The anxiety builds up
Is what you are feeling. I did not want to reach
Out to him though. He was no longer my partner.

When they are checked out and then they ask
for a divorce thats it in my book especially if there
is a new partner out there. One thing if you two
just grew apart and it was a mutual divorce, yours
Isn't nor was mine.

What would be your gain to call or text him. The
Constant rejection, hurt and pain will get to you
Eventually. He is nasty to you, as my ex was to
Me in voice, behaviors and actions.

When they act like that limit any and all contact
For your own sanity, they do not want to look in
Their mirror, face themselves, they are running on
guilt And shame but they are gonna do it anyways.

They have someone there waiting and giving them
the courage to do it and to get divorced from you
To be with them, HUGS