Would not want to be "a fly on the wall." Why see wht you know is aleady happening? Focus on YOU.

Nova, what a great come back....

you are so right...flies get squished and then what good is that info now... that fly could be out there snacking on a perfectly fresh pile of shit elsewhere.... don't waist your time on stale shit....

sorry for the analogy, but I'm tired and the stupids have set in.... love you guys, good night all...

I understand the thought process, as we are hurting and want to see if they are laughing and going on with life, and in most cases they are, especially if they are the leavers. That only lets us in for more hurt, but in the first few weeks , we do that to ourselves, sometimes longer as we allow them in our lives, and sometimes in our beds. All of us deal with this in different ways, and the reasons we know what works and does not work, is trial and error. But we understand the wanting to know.
This is absolutely the time to try and find you, and to try and make a new familiar with yourself. Do those things that you have forgotten, bring our friends and family closer to provide support, and maybe take up something new to keep our minds occupied, such as a musical instrument or learning a new language, or training for a 10K. Keep talking about it. Time is your friend. Hugs, Kimmee

I get what you are meaning and looking for, would be nice to see the truth and not just guess at it. Some times I wish those that judge me wrong could be a fly on the wall where I am to see exactly who I am and what I am really doing.

But would I want to be a fly on the wall with someone I know is or has done me wrong, No. It is hard enough to know what they are doing and see little things that just give merit to what they are doing. That is enough hurt for me to see I really don't want to see it all.