Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am actually afraid to post this...I am not sure..well maybe I do, what is going on with me. I cannot sleep at night..I get 2 hours sleep, trying to work, take care of the kids, deal with this impeding divorce (which by the way after all he's done I don't want but it is a necessary evil). I think my body is shutting down. I try to sleep, try relaxation techniques but I am becoming ill from not. To make an appt to see the doctor, I need to get time from work which I cannot take right now...I am skating on thin ice there, as well, but if I go on this road I will lose my kids to him being an unfit mother or someone who cannot handle life. Let me say I started back on antidepressants yesterday, I thought I was doing well enough and had been off them for several months. I don't know where to turn and feel like I am going crazy from lack of sleep and just the general anxiety of dealing with it all. I am soooo scared...VERY scared to feel like this. My children are my life, and if I lose them b/c I cannot pull it together then I don't know. I have to maintain the happy face and composure at work and my faculties and lately I haven't. Maybe my parents were right..why did I look for a job so soon and I should have moved up with them. Please I know I need to pull it together but I can't...I can't. I wish I had the time to take off just for a day to figure it out, but like all parents you must take care of them first. I am worried for myself that I will end up in the psyche ward from lack of sleep. Has anyone felt this way and how or what did they do...please help.
chill the fuck out.
this is what i go through daily.
i work 2 jobs.
i feel like i'm going insane.
i don't sleep.
i worry.
i make myself sick.
i feel like i can't do it anymore.
oh fucking well.
i gotta do it.
sleep when you can.
remember, you gotta keep it together for your kids.
keep remembering this...
it will get better.
it will.
big hugs and tough love, neighbor...
Lynne
I got something for sleep and that helped to get me in a better place. Time has helped me since then although I still do suffer from insomnia now and then. I've developed a ritual to help me relax before bed that helps to get me "in the mood" for sleep. I drink some Kava tea (you can find it at your health food store) and read. It's relaxing and very soothing. Benadryl helps for the tough nights (although it can dry you out so make sure you drink lots of fluid).
Hang in there. You have more strength than you know. ((((llmt))))
We had a monthly management meeting yesterday and I was still the only women amongst 50+ managers/supervisors/foremen...and after the meeting, they told me that they remembered me when I was a "basket case"....and that they consider me part of the team....no gender...just one of the management body. That was great...
SOMEDAY...SOOON...you will find your bearings. Once you are out from under the same roof, your trek will become a little easier and YOU ARE SO NOT ALONE...you have many that adore you and are more than willing to hold you up. MARCH BABY MARCH!
I have a friend who swears by Kirkland Sleeping pills (Costco Brand)
I don't sleep, but I get sleeping pills from the Doctor. If I don't have them and I need something, I will take a benydryl -
Do you have someone who can take the kids for an over night and so you can just spend time by yourself?
I don't think you're on your way to a nervous breakdown, It's just the divorce and nerves causing it all to happen.
((((llmt))))
Feel weird saying this but every other thing under the sun has been mentioned here except so howwabout "smoke a joint".Sometimes it makes one feel "irie" - verb - to be at total peace with your current state of being. The way you feel when you have no worries.
If your not a toker you can have one little puff and see how it makes you feel. Just throwin it out there, it helps millions cope everyday.
Big Hugs to you ((((llmt))))
Your thread has been on my mind. Was today a bit better?