I concur.

damn straight Skippy

Yes
Joy I asked you not to use the pic of me before the boob job.

that is such a deep statement. i completely agree.

yes, very true. the first 2 weeks after the break up, i was in complete denial and kept wondering why i wasn't more heartbroken. it wasn't until he texted me for easter and we spoke for the first time since the break up that it really hit me hard. i realized that up until that point, i was in complete denial that it was over. and sometimes it's easier to be in denial because you don't feel the pain...but in the end, the reality will smack you in the face and pain sets in...

Yes, denial that you know they did cheat, but you then try and reason it away, that you didn't hear it that way, or you didn't see it that way. Meaning it didn't happen. This does keep the pain away. You are in denial.

Denial, I guess I have spent my whole adult life living in denial. I have refused to beleive what my mind has proven to me time and again....If I allow myself to love someone and try to form a relationship, I am going to end up getting hurt. Everything works so ass-backwards in life. Every time I have been involved with someone and totally did not give a crap if they stayed or left, they cling to me like dryer lint on a polyester suit. If I treat someone with respect, love, attention and affection, I get used like toilet paper. It makes me think that the a-holes are the ones that come out ahead in most relationships. WTH is wrong with people? Am I the only one who wants to have a healthy, loving, care about each other relationship? It's enough to make me want to be castrated so I will never give a shit anymore. (Spending holidays alone tend to make me a bit pissed at the whole break-up situation)

holy shit, jazzman...that sucks...

"It makes me think that the a-holes are the ones that come out ahead in most relationships."

Yeah--'cos they don't care; don't invest themselves; just take what they want; whatever.

I have to believe, though, that there are still a few of us out there who *do* give a rat's *rse and we're the ones that each other are supposed to meet one day... it's just difficult to find them. (Anyone up for "Where's Waldo?"?)

I spent too long in denial. I just couldn't understand how someone could change so much.

My brain is out of denial--it realizes that it's over, that I'm better off without him--but my heart is still in it, desperately longing for the person that he used to be, despite me trying to drag it out.

I certainly lived a good 9 our of 11 years of our marriage in denial!

Don't be too hard on yourself. Once you stop the denial, it hurts like hell; however that pain is only temporary. Then you begin to heal and you will, one day, find yourself in a much better place.

i totally relate to you jazzman! all the ones i TRULY loved and gave to, left me...and the ones i didn't really care about were obsessed w/ me!!! WTH???
are we on this support group the only ones in the world that want a REAL, LASTING relationship???