If you have a positive view of the break up than traveling is a good idea, but otherwise you may need support of friends and family. It was suggested by both my therapist and pastor to stay in the area for a year before moving, so I had time to adjust to living alone again after six years of marriage. You may not be in the same boat, but it maybe helpful to take a few minutes to think about it before deciding.

I would definitely seize the moment and do whatever YOU want to do that makes you happy. When my marriage ended I was distraught and some days it's still tough but there are benefits to being single. So what I want, sleep when I want...much lower utility bills and grocery bills haha...it's beneficial to look at the bright side and try and remain positive. You're very young, good luck and remember to gain your own happiness. Don't look to someone else for your own happiness. That's critical.

I'm 52, just so you get the perspective.

I would say to take the time to define the morals, values, and ethics to which you will adhere throughout your life.
Such adherence will set the standard for the type of person, friend, partner, and parent that you will be along with what you'll accept from a friend and partner.

Epic trips to discover yourself.... The trip of a lifetime hid the fact that every day here on this earth is the trip of a lifetime

Hopefully you'll be blessed to meet someone that considers eating hot dogs and beans with the thermostat turned down to be the trip of a lifetime if they are with you

Picking my kids up from practice after school and running them to a sleep over is the trip of a lifetime, sadly all too often, I focus on the "hectic" runaround and miss the beautiful reality


I'm sorry for not being clear and concise but I think what in try to say is in there

All the best,

I would say think about what you want to accomplish in the next 6 months to a year and go from there. Travel is awesome - I back packed trough Europe after I finished university- learned a lot about the world, good and bad. The only caution is that I would not want to see you use the travel as running away from processing your breakup and coming to terms with things. Best wishes - it is an exciting time to be young and free.

Thanks everyone. I should clarify...I'm looking for things to do in like 6 months after I go through the mourning process and get back on my feet.

Pick up a new hobby, sign up for a course, read a lot...anything that will keep your mind from being bugged down by what is done.

Moving to a different state is not going to change feelings inherent in a breakup. If you view your move as an opportunity to find employment, it's not a bad idea.

Right...that's why I'm talking about after I'm done with the grieving process, such as 6 months to a year from now. I would move for a good job.

My son experienced this same thing to some degree. He got married, finished college, bought a beautiful home, got a great job and then, she found a lover and their marriage ended. He lost his job, his wife, his home and she even took his new truck. He moved back in with his mother and I for about 4 months, got a job as a juvenile parole officer, got an apartment and stayed single for quite a while. He then went to State Police Academy, became a policeman and remarried. He has been married now for about 10 years and is doing fine. Good things do happen in life so, hang in there and do not give up. Set some goals, strive to reach them and good things will come.

Jessaheart, I am very sorry to hear about your situation. I am glad you have family to turn to.

So, as I was reading your post and thinking what would I do: Here's something I would do if I were 23 and just graduated from college: I would spend the six months studying a foreign language and then applying for jobs overseas teaching English (perhaps for 1 year!) That would be a fantastic opportunity to go to another country while working and getting the experience of a lifetime. It may also look good on your resume. You could also apply with the Peace Corps. Who knows....? I would just do something so different and outrageous and have the time of my life, Like they say: "Living well is the best revenge!"

Good luck and happy holidays to you!

Take time to grieve. Take time to figure out who you are now and who you want to be. Once you feel like you've got your feet under you, go have fun. Meet new people, travel, look for a job you will feel good about.

Best of luck!