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aggiedolphin823
aggiedolphin823
Ok so the guy that I have been talking to every day for 4 months now and totally fell for is leaving early in the morning he is moving from Mass. to Cali. I might be able to be more ok with the fact that he is going to be even further away from me than he is now if I knew what he wanted from me but he says that he isn't sure if he wants more than friendship...from anyone right now. I still have suspicions about his female friend that lives in the city that he is moving to but no actual proof that is why he is going. So basically I have been sitting around depressed and just feeling like crying (which I have been doing frequently) and I don't know what the right thing to do is. I have some friends telling me to just let him and others telling me that if I love him then I need to give him time.....oh and let's not forget that as he is getting ready to move - I might be pregnant.
aggiedolphin823
aggiedolphin823
ACT yes I do realize that I was completely stupid and irresponsible. I had assumed we were headed in one direction and I guess that wasn't what he was thinking after all. I will admit I know better and shouldn't have gotten into bed without knowing for SURE but I let what I felt for him over rule that.

Thanks for the hugs everyone I really need them, I didn't sleep at all last night. I really thought I could trust this guy not to hurt me, which is no easy thing for me considering all that happened a year ago.
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(((((aggie)))) - I did not mean to throw stones. Peace and Blessings your way.
aggiedolphin823
aggiedolphin823
Jaken there has been a lot going on with vehicle problems and I hadn't been able to do a test yet but I am planning to by this weekend. I want to be able to know as soon as I can to figure things out.
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Do you feel like shit yet? so many of the early preg symptoms are also PMS symptoms.....except the damn nausea. I'm so sorry you are in this position with him moving and your suspicions about the female friend.. (((((aggie)))) Hoping, no matter what, you are doing OK physically and emotionally.. don't panic until you take the test. Here for you, friend.
deleted_user
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Well, don't get yourself all messed up before you know what's going on.

No matter what, YOU are what's important. If dude is moving, bye to him.

TAKE CARE OF YOU !
deleted_user
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Oh dear....I'm truly sorry for your situation. I cannot say more that what has already been said. Please, use protection next time if you are not pregnant. Just because you and the man may be on the same path, a child should be a planned phenomenon between the two of you and not just take it for granted that it is okay because the relationship seems serious enough. I am a mother, a concerned individual and will respect whatever decision you make. He has made his. He moved. I'm sorry for your pain. Truly.
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Big hugs {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{[Aggie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

No matter the outcome of the test, things will be OK, and we are here for you.
aggiedolphin823
aggiedolphin823
Umm I have been really tired, like even when I sleep enough at night I still end up feeling like needing a nap during the day, headaches all the time and frequently feeling sick to my stomach...and it has been happening most often in the mornings but sometimes at other times of the day I will feel sick and then it will go away.

Jaken I honestly don't know, I would hope he would do the right thing but at the same time if he didn't want to be with me before then I wouldn't want him to be with me just for that reason.
deleted_user
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Ginger Ale helps with the nausea Girlie.
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i would forget about him. if he were attracted to you or loved you or even felt a connection, he would say so. he wouldn't be leaving, or he would ask you to go with him, if you were intimate chances were he used you, (i'm sorry), and this i don't know if i want anything more than a friendship is bull, it means he is not that into you. if you have a feeling there is someone else, your probably right. and the the topper, IF he had feelings for you and thought you might be carrying his baby, HE WOULD STAY. let him go. please, start on the road to healing. this will drag on forever. i'm sorry, i wish i could say hang in there, but do yourself a favor, end it and be happy. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
aggiedolphin823
aggiedolphin823
I heart you too Jaken .... actually I heart all of you. I don't know what I would do without all of you.

Right now I am trying not to worry but feeling like shit anyway and crying hasn't helped with that. I have been awake for over 24 hours now and he left this morning to drive to Cali., told me he probly wouldn't be talking to me on his way out there cause he didn't want to deal with dropped calls, so I am resisting the urge to call or text him. If he cares about me then he needs to show it and if not then I don't need to waste my time calling and texting. Granted now that is easier said than done though but I am trying.
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Aggie: If you do not have transportation, nor have someone go to the store to get you one, here is an alternative:

http://www.drugstore.com/

They deliver. Someone in this forum uses this site and I'm going to look into it myself! Not a test but for other things but, IF I was to get pregnant, it will be a miracle and I would just jump off a bridge....
aggiedolphin823
aggiedolphin823
Thanks Z I appreciate it.