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8 months later

Strong4me2017
Strong4me2017

It's been 8 months now that I have been alone I look back at the person I was when he left and I barely recognize her I don't cry anymore I can't cry even if I wanted to is that normal even when I found out he is engaged all I felt was anger especially since he got engaged not even a month after our divorce there is a small part of me who misses the friendship and I have brief moments where I think maybe we could be friends one day but then my heart starts to hurt and I remember all the pain the holidays are hard I all the memories we had together and it makes me mad that I think like that and he doesn't care he has moved on and found someone else our memories don't matter at all to him how can someone just forget that easy about their life 9 years of a life together I have always loved Christmas this is the first year I wish it would just pass by and be done with and then I get angry for feeling that was ugh 8 months and I'm still angry

Shaner23
Shaner23
Unfortunately that's my life my husband cheatedand I ended it and he just moved right in with the ow and he has moved on and doesn't care about our kids or anything
I just keep telling myself he's not the same person, and it will get better but it's still hard.and I'm bitter.
reflection
reflection
Well, I feel your pain and it has been 2 years for me and has it gotten easier yes. You look fairly young and I must say that gives you an edge...you are much more resilient. The best thing you can do is occupy your time on other things and honestly want the ultimate revenge, go work your heart out instead of crying your eyes out and the release is positive, your body sill be just a bit more smokiin and above all else you will not become bitter but empowered and distracted from the negative thoughts that this is arousing in you. Wholly crap I responded to a few posts tonight where I was walking the walk and on this one I am needing my own advice. Mind you, I know I have reasons (AND YES ADMITTEDLY EXCUSES) for my slacking on getting going which I will not go into cause this is about you. However, I promise if you fill your time (start thinking about him, turn on your favorite tune and dance). Nothing fixes a broken heart but the one whose heart is broken and willing to become whole again to give room for the next perfect one to come in. I have faith by your picture, it will happen but you need to promise me everytime you start to think about him...STOP yourself and do something that makes you feel amazing and positive. Thank you for posting because your posts help me realize what I am doing wrong and this girl needs to GYM UP! lol HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!!!!
Katya12
Katya12
Hi. I have been in your shoes. Moving on, letting go is not the easiest thing to do. As hard as this sounds, my spiritual mom suggested i keep in the forefront of my mind the reason I divorced....not to think about the good times we had but to look at all the pain and abuse that led to us splitting. To keep remembering that there was a reason....a big reason that we separated and divorced. Zero in on yourself now....in this season. Have you thought of counseling? It is so very helpful and helps you come "out of" the Cave, so to speak, that you lived in. It brings a fresh perspective and newness to life. Treat yourself and go out and do some fun things or volunteer with those less fortunate. There is life after divorce!!!!