Its exhausting isn't it? The stress and over thinking. It drains you.
Good for you! You are doing the right thing. Continue to be strong. You know what is good for you.

Yes, it is very exhausting. Try to get rest when you can anytime you can. Eat too. I know at times that is impossible but you still need to.
You are right, it is not your fault. If he is unwilling to be truthful and admit he was wrong, there can be nothing else. I think the next time he brings his laundry by, you can tell him to go somewhere else. Take care of yourself and stay strong!

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I think it's about time you got a restraining order.... He is ruining yournlife. You will never be able to move on unless he leaves you alone.
:( I don't want to see you hurt anymore. Think about it please. Consider doing something drastic like getting the police involved to finally be able to get rid of him. It's not fair for you. You deserve better.

Hi Need: I know you are not in the U.S. I am proud of you that you resisted him. It is important that you continue to be strong.

--He does not have the right to show up at your home, so don't answer the door. If he has a key and lets himself in, then change the locks.

--He does not have the right to ask you to wash his clothes

--He does not have the right to ask to stay the night

--He does not have the right to be crying to you as all of this is his fault.

He's trying to worm his way back into your life. Keep telling him NO.

Thank you my friends. Your words of support are helping me through this. Last time I split from my husband i involved the police and they charged him with harassment. The police wanted me to also do a report on the abuse. He continued to follow me and I had him arrested. But he was so upset and begged me to drop the charges. I fell for it and did all that and took him back. It was the biggest mistake and I am stupid. Bet you all think that. But I had never been to the police before and it scared me and all I wanted was him to leave me alone. I felt sorry for him and couldn't be responsible for sending him to jail. I told him when we split this time to leave me alone or I would have to get the police involved again. He did promise he would leave me alone but hasn't. I feel such a fool and the police will think the same. But he is forcing me down that way again. I know I can't for my own sanity take him back again ever. I have just found this so difficult. As he does have the control over me. Which I am trying to stop. Enough is enough. You kind people are helping me with this and I am so grateful.

You are being so strong. He does NOT have as much control over you as you think. You keep resisting him, and that is great! If/when he shows up again, tell him to go away and never come back or you will call the cops, then do it. Don't make empty threats, make promises. Obviously he has an issue or you wouldn't have had to involve the police in the past. And I don't think you're a fool. I think you are someone who has given their man every chance to change and he hasn't, so now you've had enough. That is a wise person. Continue taking care of you!

Thankyou to all my friends on here. you keep me stromg through this

Good on you turning him away, I know how hard it must have been.

Continue to stay strong...

need,
I am so very sorry you are going through this.
Stay safe, don't answer the door and hopefully he will finally figure out in that pea brain , you are serious!!!!

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My beautiful friend... we are doing great. You and me both. I am so proud of you.
Keep going strong.
He does not control you at all. You are proving it everyday. He is trying and failing miserably in his attempts to control you.
I applaud you.