Some do, some don't, will that change things? Never know.

some do some dont

i didnt ..dear lord i wanted to more times than i can count..but i also knew it would only hurt me in the long run

i understand wanting to, but the problem is, it wont change anything..hes been lieing to her and if you come off like a crazy person, all you've done is prove his point

think long and hard about it

consider writing her a letter, then not sending it but burning it or something. I think if you try and confront her it will just fall on deaf ears. she knows what she did.

I think your anger is misplaced. She's not the one who betrayed you. In your post, you seem to be focusing on the OW. Screw her. What about the guy who slipped his dick in her?

Focus your anger where it belongs; he betrayed you. She never promised you a thing.

Eventually you'll probably want to send her a thank you letter.

I agree with Jaken....don't worry about the sluts...they are everywhere...
Also, don't worry about the stupid dick that fucked you over...
Just worry about knowing that you don't deserve this shit...
You know you are special and should never settle for anything less...

or a condolence card

Oh boy this is the wrong night to ask me this. The ow bitch has been pissy aroung my girls. I want to slap her into next year and the year after. The logical part says it would not do any good because they are clueless, the emotionally part wants to go off on her. Sorry I just am very frustrated.

Indeed Joy. Indeed.

it probably will make you feel better for the moment but realize she is not the problem, he is.....he is the one who did this to you. she may not have even realized or known anything about you and him, therefore he is to blame.
i confronted my ex fiances new "friend" about 4 wks after we broke up (he didn't know her before we broke up but hooked up with her less than 2 wks after he ended things with me), and i was full of rage and hatred towards her but i kept it as cool as i could (although according to him i was out of control and she thinks i am a psycho). she is a bit younger than me and i tried explaining things from my persepctive that we have know each other for 16 yrs and been together for the last 7 and that we have a son. i told her i didn't blame her directly (although she was in our apartment with some of my things and my pictures hanging on the walls, while they hooked up, so doesn't say much about her) and the blame was on him to just try to put herself in my shoes. try to imagine how i was feeling about everything. well i felt great that night when i walked away but it didn't last much longer than that, because i am still stuck in the hell that is called my life and she is still in the picture and at this point i can't stand the bitch for taking my place. so.....if you feel it will help just try to stay calm and somewhat sane, try to get her to understand your point of view without placing blame on her but on him. maybe it will help your healing. good luck with whatever you decide!

I did talk to the skank ow in my situation and although it made me feel a little better, it didn't change anything. She basically thought giving a few "I'm sorry's" would make it all better, but as she kept talking her arrogance came through. I told her she knew exactly what she was doing, that she was trash and she and the ex deserved each other.

I felt a little better, but in the long run it doesn't change anything.

Well - you already know how i feel about it. It was eating at me too and now I feel relieved and invigorated. If it is eating at you, i say do it. Can it really make things worse and maybe it can make things better for you - clearer. I know how all consuming the whole thing is. I say whatever it takes.

One difference for you is you know her already. I didn't and i had this sweet person pictured in my mind. It helped me to see this hard crusty BITCH! LOL She is 10 years younger than me and weights a fraction of my weight but OMG she ain't even cute! LOL Everyone says one day he will realize what he has done and what he has lost. I sure hope everyone is right!

And it helped me focus more of my anger on him where it belongs. Like everyone here says and said to me he is the one who betrayed you. Yet still I have focused the blame on her. Oh I still think she is a scheming bitch but he lost his soul to her. What an idiot asshole.

Hope...She befriended me a long time ago. I've known her for several years now. I do very much blame him as well.

NEWS FLASH! Who gets the last laugh? ME! LOL My "husband" just came home and asked me if I'd sent out an e-mail about us. I told him I did and asked him why. He asked why I did it and I told him that our friends and family needed to know what was happening with us and that he no longer wanted to be married. The e-mail was very simple, short and to the point. Well, his little slut is all upset now because somehow her brother got the e-mail (I did not send it to him because I didn't have his e-mail addy). He says she's worried about her family knowing what's been going on. I said who the hell cares what her family thinks! She's been screwing a married man and what about what MY family thinks? Finally! She is getting what she deserves! :-) LMAO....thank you "hunny" for making me laugh!