Hey I can send you a message. I assume you live close by based on what you said. What ins do you have? I had a terrible experience with one over a month ago but think I found a good fit finally. Just saw her today for the first time and left feeling hopeful.

I have had a good experience with a therapist. I find it helpful to just vent and ask for constructive criticism. I could go to therapy and blame my husband all day long, but why waste my time talking about him when I am the one who has to be OK with me.

I think it can be difficult - I have been to a couple and I did find one I really liked.. she wasn't afraid to call me out when she felt I wasn't being honest with myself, and really challenged me which was really good for me. However, we moved away so I sadly could not continue with her and I didn't get to work with her for long. I really don't care for the one I have now, she has been helpful in some respects initially but she seems to just keep repeating the same thing over and over again, and is never able to offer any practical help at all (i.e. if I ask for some techniques I could use to calm down as I felt I was becoming very short-tempered, or similar questions). It can be hard to find a therapist you like, that's for sure. I try to screen them as much as possible based on any information I can find online, which is for some reason pretty difficult to do for most therapists :( Sometimes you get lucky though and some of them have online bios or other information about their methods and theories on a website. Good luck :)

I would check in at a local Divorce Care group. Not only is it a good support group, but it is a good resource for you to connect with people locally who might have counselors as well. Stay strong and God bless you.

I agree DivorceCare is a great source of support, and you might also get referrals to therapists from members. Finding a good one is difficult - mostly trial and error. I tried several that took my insurance, but finally found someone good - willing to challenge me and keep me honest with myself, constructive feedback, etc. Unfortunately, she is out-of-network so I have to pay the full cost myself. Wishing you luck in your search.

Hello everyone,
thank you for the feedback. I got extremely lucky with the first therapist several years ago so I just assumed that would be the case this time. The therapist I was recently seeing is someone you can vent to and complain to. Sure I get my emotions out but there really isn't any sort of plan or goals. I don't have things I should work on or any more insight into what or where some of my problems may come from. My sister is a psychiatrist but she lives out of state. Im not sure if she would know any psychologists in my area but maybe I can try to ask her if someone she knows has any ideas. It is difficult talking to my sister because she grew impatient with me and my choices for many years. Maybe if she sees that I am actually trying this time and want to someday be in a healthy relationship in the future she will be more inclined to want to be in my life through this.

Ask your doc if they recommend anyone
I started at a local walk in clinic and then went on a wait list
Been seeing my therapist a year and a half

How has therapy been going? Do you feel it has helped you?