I have all these questions too. I have only been separated for over a month but I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life but I have a really hard time seeing myself with someone else in a day to day life!

Jstcyn,
I know! I think it is because you had all these plans with this person. You saw this future and when that ends the thought of some mystery person taking that place someday seems so odd. I mean of course maybe someday we will hopefully find that right person and maybe all these awful sleepless nights will finally mean something!

ok it has been 33 days since the love of my life my fiance dumped me. i have been out on a date last week with someone that have some interest in me. all i did was compare her to my ex. so i realize that it was too soon for me to date. i have not heal yet. or maybe i just need to push myself into a rebound relationship. i hear it helps keep your mind off the ex. i just don't know. i am just lost as everyone with a broken heart. today i feel much better. tomorrow i don't know how i will feel. i have packed all her clothes that she has left behind and ask her to return my ring as of today. can anyone tell me why she has not return my ring like she said she was.

I believe that first you have to be happy with yourself and being alone. Just because you are alone doesn't mean you have to be lonely. I learned so much about myself during the first few months after my separation/divorce. I had no interest in dating and took my time healing and caring for me.

I think that MeetUps are a great first step. If you haven't heard of them Google MeetUps and see what they have available in your area. It is a great way to meet people with the same interest without the stress of a one or one or blind date.

Don't settle for someone just because you are lonely or only feel validated when you are in a relationship. I felt so much pride, power and happiness with being single.

I too had wondered when I was ready how I would meet someone. I hated the thought of opening myself up to someone. The getting to know each other....meeting family and friends...ugh!!

For me my story took an unexpected turn. A wonderful man who had been one of my closest friends for half my life declared his love for me when he saw that my heart was healing from my divorce. He loved me enough to stand back and give me time. I had no clue he had been in love with me for decades. We have been dating for over a year and life is wonderful. We are taking things super slow and I love every slow moment of it. Funny thing is...I still really enjoy my me time.

I know lots of people on here have tried online dating...if just want for me!

Ya I think I will take some time to be alone. I know its weird but since I was 16 years old I haven't really ever been totally alone ever. There was always a serious relationship or someone who I had in my life to make me feel "okay" . I don't really even know what things I like or enjoy doing or what interests I have. I am 27 years old and I am just NOW trying to figure out who I am! I think in every relationship I have tried to do the things the person enjoyed. The hobbies they had I tried to become interested in and spent all my free time doing the things someone else really enjoyed. I really do think I will try and get to know myself better during this time. I am starting to see that I enjoy watching culinary shows and looking up recipes online. So that's a start!