Things are not even over... is what I meant to say.

First step, take a breath. Driving yourself crazy won't help anything. You need to find some peace in yourself. Right now, you need to find something to focus on other than what's going on in your head. Read a book, go to a movie, take a walk, listen to some music, or just sit down, close your eyes, and take deep breaths.

When you say things aren't over yet, do you think you and your ex can reconcile? Is that something you want or do you want it to be over? Whatever the case, winding yourself up is only making it more stressful. When you next talk to your ex, you want to have a clear idea of what you want to say, and to say it in a calm, clear, non-aggressive way.

Slow down and center yourself. I wish you all the best. Hang in there.

Brooklyn, did you read any replies in your other thread regarding him flirting with other girls?

I did but I don't agree I'm sorry but he hasn't taken me back yet. Why doesn't he have a right to date others?

If hes sleeping with you then hes cheating. This guy is totally using you. Most of us agree on that. Only you can get yourself out of this situation . Just walk away.

If you feel he has the right to date others, then......what's your concern, exactly? He's dating others and flirting...so....

I'm not getting your concern here either after reading this post and your other post about him (your ex) flirting with another girl and you going bonkers about it after you had already broken up with him. He has every right to flirt with and go out with any other girl he so chooses to since he is your EX. By both of your posts that I have read, it sounds to me like you have even said that he has every right to date others. If he does, it doesn't matter if he's flirting or not. Either way, he is clearly showing you by his actions that you are not a priority on his list at all. Remember....actions speak louder than words. If he really and totally wanted you, he would be making every attempt possible at being with you. Am I wrong in understanding you?

I found two actions that helped me greatly. First I started writing my early life story prior to my ex, I will incorporate her when feeling more generous and secondly exercised a great deal. Both were profoundly helpful. Remembering and writing reminded me I had a life before her and exercise, in my case bicycling, puts my files in order. I think through issues best when exercising hard and sleep better, most important for you now. Careful out in public, you may be distracted, don't have an accident, but using your body will help your mind. Good luck.