Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
stayed off this site for a few days. My husband stringing me along 'Time will tell' - 'There is always hope' - 'I still think you are a hell of a sexy woman' - rubbing up against me, hugging me from behind, hugging me to him, giving me kisses - giving me hope......
Tells me he is upset that I have not been taking my phone with me. What if he wants to text me? Never mind the fact that he does not text me. So, I took my phone with me to work. Texted him around 4PM. Called and left him a message around 9 PM. Never heard from him.
His mother tells me he left the house at 4PM - says he left his phone at the house. Failed to tell me that he has gotten himself another phone.....
I come home at 3AM from work. Husband is at the house - just got there. I knew then that he had been at the OW's house all day and night.
He tells me he loves us both. I tell him he can't possibly love 2 women. 'Why not?' is his question.
No emotion in him to show that it bothers him that he is cutting my heart out with what he is saying.
I am so hurt and so bitter at this moment that I tell him I am going to make him lose his job. The OW works for him - he is her supervisor. He refuses to stop seeing her, but doesn't want to let me go. Told his mother he is afraid he will realize he made a big mistake. So, he keeps me hanging on to hope, just in case the OW turns out to be something different from what he has expected.
He was in trouble before at his job over this affair. Hasn't stopped them, even though he almost lost his job last time.
He calls me a vindictive c..t - maybe he is right, but at this time I am so destroyed, hurt, angry, bitter, I am very seriously considering going to his job and filing a complaint against both of them. I actually have text messages that show that they have also been carrying on at work.
I know it will make me what he calls me, but I am at an all time low.
Who plays with people this way? Who has total disregard for people they once claimed to love?
Tells me he is upset that I have not been taking my phone with me. What if he wants to text me? Never mind the fact that he does not text me. So, I took my phone with me to work. Texted him around 4PM. Called and left him a message around 9 PM. Never heard from him.
His mother tells me he left the house at 4PM - says he left his phone at the house. Failed to tell me that he has gotten himself another phone.....
I come home at 3AM from work. Husband is at the house - just got there. I knew then that he had been at the OW's house all day and night.
He tells me he loves us both. I tell him he can't possibly love 2 women. 'Why not?' is his question.
No emotion in him to show that it bothers him that he is cutting my heart out with what he is saying.
I am so hurt and so bitter at this moment that I tell him I am going to make him lose his job. The OW works for him - he is her supervisor. He refuses to stop seeing her, but doesn't want to let me go. Told his mother he is afraid he will realize he made a big mistake. So, he keeps me hanging on to hope, just in case the OW turns out to be something different from what he has expected.
He was in trouble before at his job over this affair. Hasn't stopped them, even though he almost lost his job last time.
He calls me a vindictive c..t - maybe he is right, but at this time I am so destroyed, hurt, angry, bitter, I am very seriously considering going to his job and filing a complaint against both of them. I actually have text messages that show that they have also been carrying on at work.
I know it will make me what he calls me, but I am at an all time low.
Who plays with people this way? Who has total disregard for people they once claimed to love?
I also DID get an attorney. Best $4500 I ever spent! They had to move out of my house within 30 days. I got 1/2 of our furniture, 1/2 our stock and 1/2 of his retirement.
They've been living with his 70+ year old parents in their 1300 sf home - 4 adults and 5 dogs.
Seems life with the OW is no longer as stress free as he proclaimed when they were riding high: 2 houses (hers and his). 2 new cars, 2 great incomes and (thanks to me) no debt on his side.
Life was great until all came crashing down and now he is again texting me, wanting to meet at 'our' place, wanting me to listen to ''Happy Together' by The Monkey's - our song....not sure when this became our song, but I am sure it is now wishful thinking on his part.
'What I had was 100x better than the pain and trouble I caused. I realize now that what I always wanted was not on the internet, but right in front of me!" - his words in one of his texts to me.
I am certain that what we had and what I had to offer now seems like a kingdom to him. He is still with the OW, tells me that she has no other place to go. I know that is a lie, because she has a divorced sister in a town 28 miles away, she has parents and children she can live with.
Anyway, life is not so golden any longer, lots of fights, she is not the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with either.
I was kind enough to forward those texts to her, to one of them she replied that she is just glad that I eff'd up my marriage and that she now has this wonderful man to love her....l never said she is very bright.
Planted that seed of doubt in the back of her little mind - now she knows what it feels like to love someone who loves somebody else...
Please don't let the bitterness eat at you. Deny it, turn and walk away. Nothing you do to him will help you in any way. Ignore him and his OW and refocus on your own life. You are in my prayers.