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My husband apparently does not agree with regular support. He thinks I should ask him every time I need something. It worked when I was working because all I needed was for him to pay the sitter. I didn't really think that was enough since I have the kids the majority of the time and he makes like 2x what I make, but I accepted that. That's all i wanted to ask for. Now I'm out of work and he doesn't offer me anything. I asked him why and he thinks I should ask. He says he wouldn't say no, but he doesnt really spend his money well and my concern is that when I really need something he won't have it to give because we (myself and children) are not a priority. He says his priority is fixing his credit so that bills collectors will stop calling him. I say so u want me to become a bill collector; calling u every time I'm in need. He says yes. I say that's not gonna happen. I'll let the state do it for me. Thoughts? From custodial and non custodial parents.
If you are intent on getting his assistance, I gues, figure out his payday and may sure, you are there at 5:01p when he gets off work to get a bit before he blows it.
good luck
Go get 'im.
I would not leave it up for him to do on his own accord. You turn it into a priority for him by taking it though the court system. and if he misses a single payment, you head right straight back to court so they can force him to pay it or garnish his wages.
Do not let him take his kids for granted like that. My father never paid a penny of child support to my mom. He always filed for bankruptcy and skirted his way around having wages garnished. Now, I think they still enforce it even in bankruptcy.. not 100% sure on that and it varies by state too. But the good thing about it is, if it is documented with the state, he HAS to pay it. If I could locate my father, he would have to pay me over $80,000 in unpaid child support. My mother took me when I was 18 to talk to my divorce lawyer who handled it and he told me that I could petition to have that money paid back to me if I could find him.