Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Q: The love of my life with whom I've been with for four years has told me that she is in love with someone else. She met him about five months ago. What should I do? I love her dearly and I don't want to lose her. She has asked me to wait for her while she makes up her mind. Should I wait or should I let go?
Sri Sri : I can understand your problem in one way. But in another way, I have no experience on this. So I cant advise you.
All that I can say is take some time out and be silent. Think about your life, about how it was in the past.
When that person was not there in your life, even then you were happy? If that person had kindled some spark in you, made you experience some love, just thank her. In the future without her also your life will continue.
I tell you, you will only go up. If that person goes away, you will get a better person. This is for sure. Know that you are the centre, okay!
Dont put your soul into the other person, keep it in yourself. And if that person comes back, fine, otherwise, move on.
This wisdom will help you not to have that love turn into hatred. Often people love somebody and that turns into such bitterness and hatred that it is unbelievable. So dont let that happen.
If you love somebody, let go. If it is yours, it will come back to you. If it doesnt come back, it never was yours. Know this and move on.
Sri Sri : I can understand your problem in one way. But in another way, I have no experience on this. So I cant advise you.
All that I can say is take some time out and be silent. Think about your life, about how it was in the past.
When that person was not there in your life, even then you were happy? If that person had kindled some spark in you, made you experience some love, just thank her. In the future without her also your life will continue.
I tell you, you will only go up. If that person goes away, you will get a better person. This is for sure. Know that you are the centre, okay!
Dont put your soul into the other person, keep it in yourself. And if that person comes back, fine, otherwise, move on.
This wisdom will help you not to have that love turn into hatred. Often people love somebody and that turns into such bitterness and hatred that it is unbelievable. So dont let that happen.
If you love somebody, let go. If it is yours, it will come back to you. If it doesnt come back, it never was yours. Know this and move on.
1. while she was with you she was supposed to be focused on love with you.
2. now that she is with him she is supposed to be focused on love with him.
3. since she got both wrong, we can only conclude that she does not love in the socially defined way and at her age probably never will.
dump her and don't look back.
Which means you need to focus on your own actions and not on the other's actions.