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I was to meet a few friends at a bar near me, our regular hang out. It just happens to be singles night at the bar. As I was walking in the parking lot, I saw my stbx's car. I couldn't believe it.
I called my daughter and asked her who is watching them. My daughter told me that mommy was we them. My daughter lied to me. I told her I know mommy is not there and, I just want to know who is watching them. She then told me. I asked her why she lied to me, she said "because it is none of my business what mommy is doing." I told her I don't care what mommy is doing. I just care about who is watching you.
Do you think my daughter lied to me because she was coached or she lied on her own?
I called my daughter and asked her who is watching them. My daughter told me that mommy was we them. My daughter lied to me. I told her I know mommy is not there and, I just want to know who is watching them. She then told me. I asked her why she lied to me, she said "because it is none of my business what mommy is doing." I told her I don't care what mommy is doing. I just care about who is watching you.
Do you think my daughter lied to me because she was coached or she lied on her own?
I do think you probably should say something to your daughter about them not being left home alone at night and safety. And the importance of her not lying to you.
If you have the kids every other weekend, I don't know why she just can't wait to go out until you have the kids. Or am I crazy here? I don't share custody so I don't know how other people work it.
Again,I would discuss with lawyer if you can. If you can't talk/email with her, then I would say perhaps a letter from your attorney. Maybe just asking that the children not be left home alone at night, and if that's necessary, you be the first choice for "babysitting". If you are willing to do that.
Tough situation. I'm sorry somerdale!
It is odd. I hear my daughter on the phone with her father answering his questions which are obviously "what did you do" "where did you go" "who was there" anyone else" and it goes WAY past "so what did you do today". I just let it go. She is young and these persistent questions don't affect her. If anything he is hurting himself and I will always hope my children answer honestly, by not instructing them in any way, not having anything to hide. He obviously thinks I do.
All I did was asked my daughter who was watching them. I did not ask what mommy was doing.
I have told the kids, if mommy ask them questions about our time together, to tell her.