"it's just a little phase..... a 13 year phase" :P

from talking to others (and i might be horribly off on this, but it's just my personal experience), 3-somes are actually a bit rarer than people think. and speaking as a male and seeing what happens to the relationships i've observed after they've done something like that, it tends to make the relationship a LOT more difficult. one partner (typically the guy) thinks that since his wife/gf has done a 3-some once, he is almost entitled to ask for one every time he gets the urge. and the other partner generally begins to feel unwanted as their spouse constantly wants an additional partner. i think it's just a difficult thing to really analyze, as every relationship is going to be a little bit different lol

i always hear how bisexuals like to do 3sums. i was gonna do that long time ago never happen and id rather do 3sums with women.

im a bi woman im 22 my last relationship end cause of a threesome but thats not true for some people can do it and not change their relatoinship so it just depends but i know personaly i know im not ready to try again and my husband knows that full well so just be honest if ur worried hope i helped

not all people like to do 3sums either. if i were you, id have an extensive talk with your man about a 3sum same when you bring in a 3rd person have extensive talks about it so there won't be any misunderstandings later on

I think at this point he s just excited about the idea of it, earlier he would've never wanted me w another women, now he realizes I shouldnt repress and ignore my sexuality he s supportive of it, that and it's just about every guys fantasy to have a 3 sum w two women. I'm just worried about the after math that it could bring. I want it to be like a one time thing get it out of my system hopefully never do it again type thing but that's not gonna happen.

it is hard having feelings and denying them or repressing them always be open to new things being with a women is a beautiful thing and make me and millions of other gay or lesbian womennn happy but the three some thing it could make or break ur relet6ionship just be careful and trust ur gutttt feeeling always ah women intuition is usually never wrong

Hi ..it sounds like, as much as your partner wants to do the 3some, you don't want to...I sense reluctance and anxiety when you say that it is something that you just want to get over with and never visit the topic again...3somes should be an experience whose terms should be consensually agreed upon by the participants. More importantly it should simply orgamiscally good for all partners! So ya the whole point of 3somes wouldn't be met if you feel deep inside that it's not for you. Your main partner should understand this, if that is what you feel.

*More importantly it should be orgasmically good for all partners!

Agree you don't sound like you want this! Tell him, be honest. Have done some with this topic but am not into the idea myself so left it at what it was and never pursued it--but to each his/her own I guess.

I had my first 3sum two weeks ago at the age of 39. My husband and I have been happily married for 17 years, but I've always considered myself bisexual, but I didn't act on it. I need to tell you first that we probably didn't communicate enough before it happened and the aftermath has been difficult. The problem isn't that he wanted more; the problem is that I was too excited throughout the whole experience. Honestly, I loved it, but my actions convinced my husband that I was a lesbian. He's been asking about it for two weeks and we're both in counseling...I don't know where we go from here, but my advice is to communicate a ton before this happens if you decide to go through with it. ie. How will you feel if ....? What are the boundaries? What happens the next day? Is this an ongoing thing or will it just be once? How do you deal with feelings of jealously? And lastly, but probably most important, is our relationship strong enough to handle all of these questions? I soooo wish I would've thought everything through more, because I did enjoy the experience, but I don't know if it was worth all the confusion that followed. Best of luck to you! Trust your heart and message me anytime.