Bisexuality Support Group
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.
I came out to my mom and sister a week or two ago. :) I was happy and my sis was ok with it.
My mom had questions and was a bit awkward even though she assured me she still loved me.
The thing is though, mom has been telling me "not to flaunt it" or "tell anyone" that I'm not straight. How do I deal with this? I've told her that "she doesn't have to flaunt it" and she goes silent when I say this.
I don't have a girlfriend but there is a woman I've talked to for a while that if she lived closer we might be together or have a better shot.
Is there anyway I could deal with this? Tell her I don't flaunt it? I mean holding hands and the occasional peck on the cheek is done by heterosexual people all the time.. PDA wise I mean. That's not 'flaunting'.
I think she's embarassed I'm not "normal", but I accept that. What are some things I could tell her in response to what she's said?
My mom had questions and was a bit awkward even though she assured me she still loved me.
The thing is though, mom has been telling me "not to flaunt it" or "tell anyone" that I'm not straight. How do I deal with this? I've told her that "she doesn't have to flaunt it" and she goes silent when I say this.
I don't have a girlfriend but there is a woman I've talked to for a while that if she lived closer we might be together or have a better shot.
Is there anyway I could deal with this? Tell her I don't flaunt it? I mean holding hands and the occasional peck on the cheek is done by heterosexual people all the time.. PDA wise I mean. That's not 'flaunting'.
I think she's embarassed I'm not "normal", but I accept that. What are some things I could tell her in response to what she's said?
deleted_user
I think that the best way is to be yourself. I was always a 'pleaser' and ended up trying so hard to meet other people's expectations, that I neglected my own feelings. I felt a lot better about my bisexuality when I started to love and respect myself. I think that for your mom, anything that reminds her of your sexual orientation would constitute 'flaunting'. She's just unfamiliar with bisexuality, and maybe a little frightened of the unknown. Just being your own, natural self will help her to see that there's nothing to fear. Just let your mom know that you love her, and that you're the same person you always were. I hope this helps! You're not alone!
deleted_user
You have to understand that a big hit you gave them espcially mom so you have to understand that once it hit everyone else poeople will talk and your momther will get comemetn on but see the thing is to support your mother now make her porud so she has somthing to back up on like if someone or a firend of hers says it wrong to be what you are she have somthing to back up like i dont care she a preoffsisanl somthin and she be pruod of what you are so give it some time it will come around ok
kcjones
Just be yourself-that's all you can do. I don't think it's so much about saying anything specific-just act how you would naturally.
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