nothing is wrong with you. moods fluctuate. and as time goes on, the "new-ness wears off" and that's where a good relationship really starts to get built. it seems to me that she has some self-esteem issues that she needs to work on before she can be in a relationship. it sounds cliche, but the old saying "you need to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else" really does ring true. talk to her about it all. sit down and have a calm discussion with her and maybe that will help calm some of her fears

We have been together 9 months almost 10 and ik she isn't using me but I've been used by ppl in te past who only wanted sex and try left me Becuz I wouldn't give it...so I'm just scared...I mean I've slept with her times before just I don't seem to want it very often and it hurts we and makes her feel like I'm not attracted to her or she isn't enough when I reject it...

well, if you think it's serious enough, you could go to the doctor's and see if it might be a hormonal imbalance. but it seems to me like things are just waxing and waning, which there is nothing wrong with that. sit down and talk to her about it. see if you can "spice things up a little bit" that might make you "want it more" so to speak. see if you can re-introduce a little spark. and if those things don't work, you might want to consider that it is in a hormone imbalance (which isn't as bad as it sounds, because it can be something simple like a diet change or just being a teenager)

Maybe...I mean I was a virgin for 16 yrs and I've still never had sex with a guy...only a girl...and I'm 17 1/2 now...and my girl has had sex with both a guy and girl...and she is almost 16...idk...I'm in love with this girl I just don't like hurting her...

just talk to her about it. trust me, that will do you a load of good :)