I would say to her 'This isn't about gender. It's about people. And you're the person I chose because I love you.'

That would be frustrating for sure! Have you discussed with her how it makes you feel? I know when I talk about women around my husband he gets angry and says I'm rubbing it in that I am attracted to women! lol I don't intentionally try to hurt him in any way but I didn't know it really bothered him tell he told me so now I'm more careful at what I say! Hope it gets better for ya! Best of luck !!!

if you wasn't with her, u'd be with a man? does it make a difference if you were a man or woman? dating is a numbers game, u date based on whoever interests you. not gay enough huh? sounds like black people when they argue with a biracial person reminds me of not black enough or white enough!

i agree with reply #1. if ur gf is so scared that ur gonna be a man sometime, then it's her with the issues not you because if she was so secure in herself, whoever you date shouldn't bother her.

To be honest if I was in any relationship I'd just be happy that I have the person, instead of thinking of them being with someone else, she sounds a bit insecure to me.

made a mistake i meant be with a man not be a man.

As wierd as this may sound, if you were "gay enough" according to her definition you just might not be in this support group. Though you both are part of the GLBT community, we all are a part of, there are differrences between being GAY and being bisexual. Some how it seems as though she has defined the type of girlfriend that she wants orientation wise. And you don't fit her description. She is not representative of all gay women, however.
I know I'm a guy and all, but I've had female GLBT friends. They were pretty COOL actually. I asked why love relationships between two GLBT women are so intense, something another GAY female friend told me. Though not a clear response was obtained one of them admitted being very surprised at the level of intensity in her love relationship. All this to say that if you get too involved with your relationship partner than things might get messy. If wwhile things are as intense as mentionned to me between the two of you how will you handle the added pressure of not being "Gay enough" ? Looks like both of you may need a new partner and than both of you can be happy, irregardless as to the gender of YOUR partner. Just my take on the situation. :)

" She is not representative of all gay women, however. "

i agree nobody isn't a representative to anything, everybody is there own individual and people need to stop trying to represent everybody in that particular group.

@Krissy90: I think this was my exact response to her a few times!! Great minds think alike!! ;)

@ladytiger EXACTLY!!! Why does it make such a difference!!!??? It's not like she DIDN'T know that I was Bi before we started dating. And what makes me even more frustrated is that she has only dated Bi woman!! Ughhhh, sometimes I wanna pull my hair out. But at the end of the day, I live with it. Overall our relationship is great!! Sometimes I need to vent!! Thanks for your support!!

I think a lot of bisexual people need to have that memorized tlfiore, in case there is a fight over sexuality. It's good reassurance, but it lets you defend yourself too.

i can't stand when u meet a person and date them; they act like u never told them xyz about yourself and treat you differently as if they are expecting a different result. so, she knew you're bi. why did she bring up oh u could leave me for a man? u should tell her u could also leave me for a woman i could see her telling u thats different in what way?

EH, Tifiore. You are awful pretty in your photo. Don't let anybody push you to pull your hair out. Now if your girlfriend has always dated bisexuals sounds like SHE is the one with the problem. As I see it, She may have changed but you haven't.