Bisexuality Support Group

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

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courtR 02/17/2012

i am a newly wed yes these past 9 months have been the best of my life. Now the hard drama, i am bi and really attracted to women. Sometimes i fear that im more lesbian then straight :(. i love my husband and i want that perfect life with a big family and big dog n all but ive repressed my sexuality for so long i feel like im cheating myself out. another hard thing is im a Christian! i ve always been taught that homosexuality is a sin of couse and i hear adam and eve not eve and amanda from my husband before. He knew i was bi while we were dating, i never told my parents and knew i couldnt go down that road for fear of being rejected by my own family. i also feel so dirty like im this horrible wife that watches lesbian porn while my husband is away, im so shy and embarssed about being bi, i never joined this group before, like im ashamed of myself for being this way. should i feel this way about myself/sexuality?

deleted_user 02/17/2012

Hey i understand wht your going thru and i dont have alot of advice but wante you to know ur not the only one feeling that way, wish u luck:)

deleted_user 02/17/2012

Please don't put yourself through this. There is no reason why you can't be Christian and be bisexual. When it comes down to it, the only thing you need for salvation is to believe in God, believe that Jesus is his son, and accept that the only way to God is through Christ. HE made you bi for a reason, and that reason wasn't so that you can feel miserable and rejected your whole life. I am also married, bi, and Christian, and I'm going to heaven when I die.

courtR 02/17/2012

thanks JC33 :-) that is the first time i ve ever met another individual that was a Christian and bisexual, that is awesome.

deleted_user 02/19/2012

Even though I don't subscribe to any organized religion, I was raised christian and can relate to feelings of shame and guilty--totally undeserved. You know the answer to your question by how wrong it feels inside every time you're crammed back into a narrow view--something not including your whole self (bi and all). IDK what you can do if your husband is not open to you fulfilling these desires. Might suggest some soul-searching--both on a personal and philosophical level--to decide what YOU want, not what others tell you to want.

Good luck hun!

deleted_user 02/20/2012

God loves everyone. Anyone that says bisexuality is a sin, have hate in them, and don't believe god only gives us gifts. Why would god forbid that, if he created you that way? And to deny your bisexuality would be a sin to both you and god, as he created you that way.

The bible was written by men, and men are flawed. Stories change, some stuff gets modified, and suddenly you have men advancing their own views. God wants you to be who you are. He wouldn't have created you that way otherwise. To say that bisexuality\gay\lesbian is a sin, is not god talking...it's a man from 2 millenia ago who had an agenda.

Do not feel guilty, do not feel sad, you are a good christian and god loves you, wants you to be happy, and to have faith.

I am bisexual, and watched gay porn while i was married. If you are bisexual, you must have an outlet to vent, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with bisexual porn. Besides, it helps to keep you from acting on it in other ways. Mine was porn too. A little bit, went a long way. Now that my wife has left me over being bisexual (I didn't tell her until we were married out of fear which is wrong, but now my fear is justified), I watch straight porn now, because that side of my sexuality is not there for me anymore.

Keep your chin up, don't feel guilty. I know it's hard, but god doesn't give you something that he considers a sin...only man is flawed enough to make it a sin.

I felt guilty for a while, but you know what? I now would never give this gift that god gave me up. I am enlightened because of this gift, and actually feel sorry for anyone that does not have it, or treats me with hate (which coincidentally enough isn't straight people, it's gay people).

deleted_user 02/27/2012

There are many Christian lesbians, Christian bisexuals, a lot of support out there for you, and also supportive churches. Search online, you will find many others. You were made this way, it is part of how you were born (if you're not sure about this, ask yourself if you would choose to feel this way if you could help it?). Don't fight yourself, don't bring more hate into the world, just notice what comes up for you naturally and see if when you let yourself be yourself, if that brings you back to your husband or elsewhere. You can figure this out without cheating or doing anything harmful, just stop rejecting your own thoughts but let them come.

It might be that the people you grew up around were wrong. Think about it, have they ever been wrong about anything else in their lives? We all make mistakes, especially about things we don't know much about. The world is changing, and we are all learning more. You are still the loving thoughtful person you always were, and loving more or different people does not change any of that. You can still live a moral and kind life, whether with a man or with a woman. You are not alone, there are millions who feel just like you do!

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