Bisexuality Support Group

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

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art4life19 08/17/2018

I am not confused or unsure about my sexuality. I know that I am Bisexual. I am also a Christian. I see evidence that supports the theory that God made a man and a woman to share sexual intimacy together. I am also aware that 2 people of the same sex can't reproduce. I do however know that there is far more to an intimate relationship than reproducing. And for many reasons even people in a heterosexual intimate relationship do not have children. I have had intimacy with a man and with a woman. I enjoyed intimacy with both a man and a woman. My religion supports the belief that it is wrong for 2 people of the same sex to share sexual intimacy. There are scriptures about it in the Bible. To be honest even though I am Bisexual and I have desires and attraction to people of the same sex. I am not comfortable with men that are Bisexual or Gay. I don't have a problem with men that are Gay or Bisexual in general but I don't have any desire to be with a man that has the desire to be with another man. I can be friends with a Bisexual or Gay man but I can only date and have sexual intimacy with a straight man. I just can't get into a guy that is into other guys. Seeing 2 women together and watching them have sex turns me on. Seeing 2 men together and watching them have sex does not turn me on. I can watch 2 men together but it does nothing to excite or stimulate me. I know that there are Bisexual men as well as women. I also know that there are straight and gay people. Being a Christian I don't feel comfortable living a Bisexual lifestyle or having a romantic relationship with a woman. But I don't know what to do with the fact that I am attracted to women. There is nothing that I can do to take away my desires and attraction to women. I want to be with a woman but feel condemned and wrong about being with a woman. sexually I am satisfied being with a woman or man. I actually desire to be with both at the same time and have 3 somes. But in my spirit I feel conflicted about it. I have alot of wild sexual fantasies but I feel like it is all wrong and sin but it doesn't make me deisre it less or stop having the fantasies. I am turned on by having sex with another couple and swinging which is a foursome. I am turned on by having sex with a woman. Turned on by having sex with a man. Turned on by the thought of having sex with 2 men or 2 women. But most of my fantasies are about being with a man and a woman at the same time. I love sex! And I do things that are against my religion but I am not into casual sex. I have to care about the person I have sex with and be attracted to them. I'm married to a man. I would love to have a wife to ! I am ok with being committed to 1 man and 1 woman. I don't want to have sex with everyone or meet people and hook up with them for sex. But I like being in a trusting relationship with people that I care about. I haven't been in a romantic relationship with a woman in many years. I don't know if other people are out there like me. That know what there sexuality is but feel like it is wrong. I love God and I have a good relationship with God! But I don't know if I can sware off women forever! I think about women all the time and remember how much I enjoyed being with one years ago. I wish my husband was into what I'm into sexually but he is conservative and doesn't want to do some of the wild things that I want to do. I am bored being with him even though I think he is a great guy and we have been married for 18 years. I think it is good to be conservative keeps me from getting into trouble or getting any STD's but sometimes I want to try new things and sleep with someone else.

AriannaJasmineRose 08/27/2018

Trust me, I understand. I am bisexual and I currently am dating a girl, but I feel so guilty about it, but I don't want to stop dating her either. It feels so wrong but it feels so right at the same time. It is very confusing.

art4life19 08/28/2018

Thanks for replying to my post AriannaJasmineRose. I understand that feeling that you are talking about so well. Feels wrong but in some ways right at the same time or should I say it feels good not necessarily right but I will leave that alone I think you understand what I'm trying to say and we have that feeling in common. Especially if you really like the person you are seeing. You see so many wonderful qualities and things about them that it is hard to see it as wrong but if you are a Christian it is more complicated. I mean I love God but I happen to love women also. I know you can't have it both ways you have to choose one. I struggle because I want to be a good Christian and try to follow the teachings of the bible. But I can't help that I'm attracted to women sometimes I want to say to God it is your fault you made me this way and you are the one that made women so beautiful! I'm not one of those people that truly believes I was born Bisexual. There are things that happened to me that made me try being with a woman romantically and sexually. I might not have had that desire to be with a woman if I wasn't mistreated by some of the men in my life. I can't say for sure that I would have ever gotten involved with a woman if I didn't suffer abuse and rape at the hands of some of the men in my life. I know there are people that get into same sex relationships that weren't abused or raped. But my story is different. i use to equate sex with men as painful and rough. But I learned that it can be tender and enjoyable and painless having sex with a man. Not all men are abusers or rapist. I don't think I started life being Bisexual but I found out that I was attracted to females at a young age. I didn't come out as being Bisexual until much later in life but I remember having attraction to females when I was a young as 4. I knew I liked girls. Then I experimented with a friend of mine in my teens. But when I was in my late 20's i fell in love with a woman for the first time and had my first romantic relationship with a woman. I also can't change the fact that I was raised Christian and raised to believe certain things about same sex relationships. Your faith and religion don't just change when you find something that doesn't go along with your beliefs.I am not confused. I know who I am and what I want in life. I am conflicted but not confused. I don't know how to get rid of the guilt or shame associated with how I feel about my sexuality. But it caused problems in my past relationship with a woman because I felt like what I was doing was wrong even though I really enjoyed it! She didn't feel the same way even though she was raised Catholic.

justmaybe83 09/03/2018

I know that feeling all too well super addictive.

art4life19 09/04/2018

thank you for your reply justmaybe83!

girlwithnoname66 09/11/2018

art4life19,

I am a transgender woman and have been married to my wife for 18 years. I just recently came out to her which has been rough. I can't say that I am actually bisexual but I suppose bi-curious might apply. What I wanted to reply to was your thoughts about your faith. Religions of every faith have condemned non traditional sexual relationships for a very long time. There was a time when some of them revered them but not so much these days.

I am going to share my views about how your sexuality fits into religion. Especially the Christian religion. Of course, there are a lot of flavors of Christianity but the tenants are very similar across faiths. Most the the extremists will toss Leviticus into your face every time that you talk about anything that is considered gay. Doesn't matter what the style is but if you are "gay" then you are wrong but even more so for a man with a man. Because of course that's the quote from Leviticus. Of course, in that same book there are similar passages about being cursed if you wear clothing made of mixed fibers. If you sleep in the same house as a woman on her period and so forth. The point is that religious "extremists" use only what fits their agenda. Other than a nudist who doesn't wear clothes made from mixed fibers these days? Give me a break.

God created you. He would not create an abomination that He abhorred. What would be the point in that? You can't change who you are. You were created that way. As long as you live your life with love and faith to everyone that you meet then you are true child of God. There is no greater truth than God is Love. If you are sharing yourself with love with one or more people then you are committing no sin. Jesus would not condemn you for loving another person or persons. He would be pleased that you are sharing love.

I'm not as certain about purely casual sex but as long as it is shared with no malice then I am pretty sure that would not be frowned upon. There are just too many fanatics and extremists who twist what was meant to be a guideline into black and white fact. But only the facts that fit whatever reality they exist in. Live you are life the way that you need to and find comfort in the love you share with others. Love and faith to you.

GWNN

art4life19 09/11/2018

thank you for sharing GWNN. I realize that there are a lot of things that are in the bible that do not apply to today's living. I also agree that some people take something small and blow it out of proportion and run with it. I can't change who I am. But I agree with you I don't believe God made me and then dislikes me for being the way that He made me. I really don't think I was born Bisexual like some people believe and like some people believe that they are born gay. I believe I arrived at my destination because something bad happened to me and I wanted to try something new. When I tried being with someone of the same sex I liked it and kept living my life open to the new possibilities that I discovered. I found that I was attracted to both men and women. But I don't think I was born that way. I'm going to do what makes me happy. I'm not going to worry about if it is right or wrong or if other people don't like it.

girlwithnoname66 09/11/2018

You go with your bad self! Just remember to be safe sane and consensual with your relationships. As long as you live and act in good faith you should be able to hold your head high. Love and faith.

GWNN

art4life19 09/12/2018

Thanks GWNN I'm always safe, and consensual sane I'm not so sure but I'm working on it lol, I live and act in good faith. Love and faith to you as well.

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