Bisexuality Support Group

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

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HELP PLZ!!!

ktevalga
ktevalga
well i really like this girl but the problem is that i think shes straight we became really close friends and i would not like to loose our friend ship i've been crushing on her for around 1 yr already and i have been trying to get closer to her but it seems that if i tell that i'm bi and that i really like her since i recently figured out shes homophobic. i think that i might have even fallen in love with her when im with her its the best feeling in the world. there isnt nothing in the world that makes me feel better then when i'm with her but i dont want to ruin our friendship PLZ HELP!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's a very real pain, but consider that often choosing inappropriate or otherwise unattainable partners is a sign of either a commitment-phobia or a general immaturity in regards to relationships. Think about why you love her--what exactly are the qualities she possesses that you like?
Once you know what it is you desire/need from another person, it becomes easier to weed out the people who will never match those desires/needs.
Hang in there! It'll get better!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Are you in a relationship with a straight man at present?
ktevalga
ktevalga
not at the moment
deleted_user
deleted_user
Well ya know, what are your options? You are by and have a crush on someone who is straight and homophobic. Are there magic words you could say to her to pursude her to a relationship with you? How about something more direct like getting her alone and refusing to let her leave until she realizes she loves you?
A better solution might be to realize that a crush is just a crush. It's a wonderful feeling, but it's also a painful feeling when it forces you to see things for what they really are.
If you really value the friendship, don't spoil it by trying to make it into something else, or to change her into something she wouldn't want to be.
Crushes often fade as fast as the come, but a good friendship is something that can last..