maybe you like girls more. Why try to label it? I consider myself bi, but I like girls more sexually.I think it just depends on the person.Don't worry about it.

I agree. It's OK to like one gender more and still be bisexual. I consider myself bi but I definitely am more attracted to girls. As 151 said, don't worry about labeling it. And as for the guy, it's OK to just tell him that you're not interested or don't have that kind of feelings for him. You don't have to give an explanation if you don't want to.

This problems has been existed for a long time for bisexual. I do remember it also puzzled me at first. and many of my bisexual friends met at BiMingle Com also have this problem before coming out to be bisexual. Actuall, those who have come out to be bisexual know if they are bisexual or not. But others often doubt if bisexuality does exist or not.

To summarize, I completely mirror what you are saying. In fact, the dates you've described remind me of a "relationship" I thought was simply getting to know somebody before we got "serious". I should star in my own movie "She's Just Not Into You" :)...

Yes, I am a bit of a romantic and when he kissed me, it was more like hit and run. LIke, I was thinking "WTF? How sweet, but really, where was the mood that set that up?"...I guess there was no tension on my part, and those "goosebumps" everyone kept asking me about were not present...Granted, everyone was excited for me since they hadn't really heard me talk about a guy, but it was a bit difficult with him having a long history like family with one of my coworkers...So even if I wanted to keep things secret, they could always find out from her :(....

My dilemma is strange. I cannot get involved, but the person that makes me confused I try to stay away from due to the circumstances we are in. I stand by my values and yet, the things this person has done or said, well, I can only guess. But is it just being VERY FRIENDLY as some might presume?

I notice little bits of moments of touching (tickling on the side, or resting a hand on my back) and then a few days ago I mentioned something self-deprecating in nature to which she was quick to add the following complement:

"You are not a loser. You're a very talented, intelligent, and beautiful young lady. Don't let anyone tell you different."

I was a bit taken aback. I was merely talking about my losing status at gambling, but to have taken it to that level, well...one can only think.

Sorry, this probably doesn't help your situation. I only thought that it would show I empathize with your feelings. As for meeting other women, well, that is up to you I suppose. At this point, I am still struggling to accept where I am in this.

Good luck and if you need to talk, I'm here :)

Thanks for the support. :)

I ended up telling him the other night. We went out to a club and talked. He said he'd never been in this situation. I appologized (not for being true to myself) but for not telling him sooner. He told me he told his friends *facepalm* but I guess that's normal for guys?

I think I'm just more scared I might be more gay than straight (in my bisexuality) if that makes sense. lol Some people in my region are small minded..

But I do have a date and I'd like to date a female. :)

hey..i think it's good your being true to yourself but it is normal to feel you are more attracted to girls than to guys or vice versa. lol a lot of people are like that. I like girls wayyy more than guys but once in a while a guy comes along that's different from all the other guys..and sometimes i like them too. haha it just depends i guess..what your looking for in an individual.=)

dnt worry about labels if u like girls a little more than guys no biggie. im kinda in the same situation as u. im bi but ive nvr had a girlfriend or nething. and it is hard in small places to find someone like you.so broaden ur horizens a little and maybe thatll help :]