Well, it's pretty hard not to be attracted to girls yet knowingly go out and have frequent sex with a girl and then get really defensive when you just gently suggest the idea that she might be bi. Honestly I just think she's scared of admitting to herself that she could be, and she has to start accepting that idea before she can even begin to think about getting a proper girlfriend. Just my thoughts lol xxxx

I, too, believe that she is having a hard time accepting the fact that she may indeed like women. I was at her point not too long ago. Accepting that you are bisexual is very hard at times, and I think that she is afraid that if she admits this to you then she has to admit this fact to herself...that can be too hard at times. I would say that pressuring her would be a bad thing to do...maybe gently cuddling with her one time without having sex would be a good way you could approach the issue if you feel that you must talk with her about it. Make sure that you are both just enjoying hanging out and are completely at ease with each other, a calming situation in other words, before broaching the subject. That would be my advice to you. I hope it helps.

Hello, my name is Michael and I am new to this discussion...

I know you are not me but if I were you, I would make it a real point to gently ask my friend/girlfriend as many questions as I could think of related to her admitting she's bi...

Just keep in mind that you should try your best to just listen to the answers she gives to each question and don't move on to the next until you're sure she's done answering the one she's on...

Also, you don't want to jump in to finish any of your friend's sentences and don't interject your own thoughts or ideas...

Be a good listener and let her share what's in her heart - encourage her to share it all with you too...

Your friend will be more open to share her feelings with you if she knows you are a good listener...!

i'm with besketcaseClare and LilyMaid,
she's probably thinking that if she denys it to you, then it'll make it not ture. she has to learn to accept herself.
don't try to pressure her into sayin anything, but just let her know you like her for who ever she wants to say she is.
and, cuddling is good too C:
if she is willing to cuddle with you and not have sex, then it's even more likely that she really does like you.

Maybe she's afraid to admit that she's bi or is trying to deny it thinking if she says it's not true than it will not be true. It seems odd that you two are having sex and she is into lesbian porn, but she is denying her feelings. Until she is willing to accept her sexuality things aren't going to change much. Yeah, I can see how confusing this must be for you!

wait... wait... she says she's not bisexual or gay but.. she enjoys sex with women? um humm.... maybe explain to her that being bisexual does not necessarily mean forming or wanting an emotional relationship.. it's all about who you're attracted to sexually. for example, i know a lot of men who are are bi and say that they don't like men in reference to having a relationship or thinking "oh, he's cute" ect.. they're simply attracted to the fact that.. hey.. there's a penis. it could be the same with her and maybe she doesn't understand what that means.