You know, I think alot of people have this problem. I am bisexual. I always have been. I was brought up in a christan family as well and I would NEVER dare tell my family.

I watched 2 of my cousins come out and I seen how quickly my family turned on them. They were treated so horribly, one of them got married and nobody in my family showed up except for me.

Ive watched my aunt tell my cousin that she is going to hell for being herself.

I find it hard to believe that god would turn you away for being just as he made you. I want to believe in a just and loving god who will accept me for all I am including my "SINS"

I know that I can never tell my family but what I find funny is how they pass judgment on us as if they have the right "let he who is without sin cast the first stone.." GOD is the only one who can judge you.

Honestly..Being bi in my eyes is NOTHING to be ashamed of...There are worse things in life than being BI or GAY...

For instance, your not murdering or raping or hurting ANYONE.

Chin up buttercup :D

Thank you so much. I'm no longer speaking to my mother for reasons totally unrelated to this. She is still very close with one of my uncles as am I. The other uncle stopped talking to us after he came out. I don't know why. My father is more open minded than she is, so I think I could tell him. I'm very close to him as well. My brother, however, is SUPER conservative and I know he'd flip. My sister is honestly one of my closest friends, so if it ever comes up, I will tell her. I'm worried about who to tell & when to tell because I don't want to ever have to hide a part of my life ever again. I was abused by my mom growing up & I had to lie a lot. I don't want to have to lie about loving somebody. That's all.

First, there is nothing wrong with you being the way you are. There's nothing wrong for you to have thoughts about girls, and there's nothing wrong with acting on those feelings (unless it not consensual or you're in a closed relationship, etc.).

People are incapable of controlling the things other people say. All you can do is be prepared to deal with negative statements if any are directed at you. Unfortunately we live in a world where some think it's wrong or unnatural for people to have non-heterosexual feelings.

If you want a girlfriend, then go out and get one. To hell with what other people think because what they think isn't more important than your happiness and wellbeing.

I know I don't really have that much clout in this area because I am an atheist, but I was raised very old-world Catholic, so I know what you are going through. When I first told my cousin-- who was more like a brother to me and had lived with us on and off while I was growing up-- that I'm bi, he freaked out completely and was so hysterical that I "would go to hell" that I just stopped telling him the truth about my life. It was hard to lose the closeness that I had once had with him, but in the end it's what was best for me.
Sometimes, you just have to worry about yourself and what will make you happy. I can't imagine that a god (whom I'm assuming you believe to be good and loving) would want anything other than happiness for you.
And you shouldn't let anyone else tell you what should make you happy. Just be you :) Hope that helps.

Thank you all. As of now, I don't plan on "coming out" to family. My best friends know, and that's enough for now. I've done a lot of writing and spent a lot of time with God. I have realized that being bisexual doesn't change who I am. It simply changes who I might love. God still loves me. I'm still going to Heaven. As one friend put it, "God's just giving you a bigger pool of people to pick from. He's doing you a favor." I like that thought. I will however tell my Christian therapist because this is really affecting my recovery from my ED & PTSD. She is very loving and supportive & just generally amazing.

you are who you are. don't let others judge you! Listen to the Spirit and you can't go wrong.

I am a Christian too, and even worse i go to a Christian all girls school, this is probably not what others would say, my parents are very against bi's and gay's and lesbians'. I would definitely keep a secret, but get a girlfriend, kiss, make mistakes, just don't tell them upfront

Maggie, I am so glad to see you saw this and accept me. I love you for that. I just came out to my aide who I'm really close to because she's here a lot and I just needed to talk about it with someone. She said "Keep praying about it. God will tell you what He thinks." And now she's kind of quiet...

#280 All I Know Sept.9, 2013

All I know is I am a princess
I am a beautiful princess
All I know is God loves me
Died for me
Saved me
I am His daughter
His beautiful princess
All I know is I am a Christian
All I know is I have survived more in 25 years
Than most will have to handle in a lifetime
All I know is God has given me the grace
To deal with it all
And Hes able to make ashes into jewels
All I know is Im trying to heal
All I know is since 6th grade
Guys and girls both made me daydream
All I know is I cant hide this anymore
Nor do I want to
All I know is Im bisexual
And thats okay
Im still Gods princess
He loves me anyway.

Fallon Marie

Holy smokes am I glad to join this online community. I, like you Falon, grew up having feelings for both sexes but only acting publicly as straight. I can remember having a group of 10 or so friends who would kiss, "play doctor," and essentially experiment every time we spent the night for most of our childhood. For goodness sakes, I got a hickey from a girl in the 2nd grade!

I was ridiculed in the 6th grade when of those girls told people I had asked her to be my first kiss after a night of mutual fun (which was preposterous because I had kissed girls before her!) I lost most of my friends over that rumor and quickly realized how difficult a life of public pursuit of affection could be.

I was also raised in a Christian home in the south. Luckily, my parents are very open minded followers of God who believe in the sanctity of love regardless of the form it takes. It was only this week that I broke down in tears on the phone with my mom and told her that I have come to accept that I am bisexual and always have been. I attended a church on Sunday that left me deeply wounded for their bold statements about the sinful nature of homosexuality. Imagine how much more confusing it is as a bisexual individual!

I only know one other bi person, and my boyfriend is pretty accepting of me but weary about me getting involved in LGBT communities. He is afraid he has double the competition now that I have embraced my sexuality. Please help, I need as much support as I can get.

I too am so glad I found this group. I can understand his hesitation, but do your best to explain to him that you are not in competition. I came out to my therapist today. She was extremely supportive. I am so glad. I was so afraid of judgement.

i am a Christian girl. born, raised, and still goes to church...i am almost 18, i came out to my family a few years ago..at first they took me to church and tried to pray the devil out of me...my friends told me i was going to Hell...now they've either forgotten, or choose not to believe it. when i came out to my therapist, who is also Christian, i was not judged at all. i am still struggling with accepting myself, so i am happy i found this group.

I am emotionally stirred by reading some of your stories. It made me remember growing up in the Southern Bible Belt myself. Many a night I would cry in bed, praying that I'd either be dead the next morning or a full complete girl. Over the years my life has led me on some evolutionary steps and mental changes. Some of them being missteps. I fell into deep psychological despair and chemical dependency. For the last 16 years I have been freed of chemicals. Over the last 3 years I have been attending an American Baptist church, in which I have been received so dearly. Granted only my Pastor and Asst. Pastor truly know my whole story, but I have found God again, and a loving church. There are good people out there.! :)

BTW I am bisexual along with being transsexual.

I am a bi christian as well. I have also only told a very few people about since I am in the same boat as you. Sounds like you really have it under control if you can accept your self. I know that you don't wish to come out yet ant that is fine. If you really would like a girl friend well you will have to hide the relationship. Have you talked to your uncles about this? Maybe they can help you and keep things under-wraps so no one finds out unless you want them to. Remember you are a child of God and he made you in his image you aren't wrong.