meme....if you feel unsure or in any way that you don't want to then don't! the thing about 3 somes is... you have to have a very strong relationship to begin with and a clear understanding of the game plan and the openess to accept things as they are and nothing more. if either of you are the slightest bit unsure then don't do it... i'm glad he's not pressuring you...my H and i have been thru our share of 3 somes in the past and although it is not the key factor that damaged our relationship it did have a good bit to add to it! and i will say for sure that things were never the same since! i have seen this sort of thing completely destroy relationships that were seemingly healthy... but you know what its a fun thing to talk about and fantasize about!!

i hope that helps any...

thanks :) ya it did..my bf knows clearly my oppnion everytime.. though he thinks that i think he'll cheat on me..thats not it at all i just really don't wanna fuck up a good thing. we have a real healthy realtionship and maybe one day i will feel ready but that day hasnt came yet.

i'd be lieing if i said that i didn't want it to happen in the first place...but if i had it to do all over again knowing what i know now, i wouldn't do it.... and making that decision to NOT do it anymore after all the rules had changed doesn't seem to fit into our lives anymore. i'm not one for putting all my dirty laundry right out here but i'm going to be honest with you because if it helps then it will be worth it... ever since that first time it has never been about me anymore to him or about "us" its always about the prospect of someone else in the picture. i think now, after the fact, that if you never make that a reality it can never become an obstical in your relationship. of course everyone is different, every relationship is different..but i've discussed this topic with others like me and they have simular stories to tell... he and i talked about this before the fact, we thought our relationship was healthy enough to handle it, we set the ground rules and everything.. but in the end i have to say it was a bad decision.

just giving you my point of view having been thru it and looking at it from where i began which is where your at right now.

..wow the setting ground rule ya so my realtionship..ya its like i do..but i don't. Ah

god.. isn't that just like men? I say,firstly, really talk to him and tell him that you're not emotionally okay with that right now and if he cares about you he won't push you. secondly, i highly advise against it as it can be incredibly painful emotionally if the threesome he wants involves him having sexual intercourse with both of you... it can feel like being cheated on even though you agreed to it and can cause a lot of problems with your relationship, especially if he then wants them all the time. deciding to bring someone else into my relationship almost destroyed my marriage... it might still.

Dont do it unless you are ready and willing and WANT to. Do its for you not for him. Drinking does help, but not much.

You both also need trust or this can never end well if you do, do it.

Best of luck just voice your opinions and stay strong on what you want not what he wants.

The only way a threebie works is if the women bond before anything else happens. If the girls dont click might s well call it a day.