i dont think its a bad thing but talk with your boyfriend before hand and the girl that u want to join u.. because no matter how everyone feels in the beginning.. emotions do play a part in all this and it can become to much for one or more of the people

i've replied about this before on another occasion...but i've been down this road for a good many years and i remember the first time my H and i had someone else in the picture...we talked about it ahead of time, we had a super strong relationship we felt that our relationship was definetly strong enough to handle it and we both wanted it...result was it wasn't a bad thing but it turns out although it didn't seperate us it did make us loose focus with each other something that will never come back again...so as strong as you think your relationship is be prepared because even the strongest relationships can be damaged to any degree by this. if i could take it back would i? not sure...i long for the focus to be back to him and i but who the hell knows it might have happened anyway without outside influence.. i know thats not much of an answer but just my personal experience..

I am a bisexual woman; I am attracted in every way to both genders.

This is my personal opinion:

When I love someone (male or female), I am devoted (in every way, sexual desire included) 100% only to them and I don't seek to find anyone else to have a relationship with.

I am a one partner kind of gal, especially when I love the person.

I believe that sex is between two people, and bringing in someone else ultimately demeans the value of what someone has with their mate.

I cannot understand why anyone would bring another person into their relationship with their mate. I feel that even if you are bisexual, you cannot have it both ways, a male AND a female to play with, and still be truly committed to the person you founded the relationship with.

I feel that it is cheating.

well i personally don't think it's cheating if you both are consenting to it..how could it be cheating if you are not doing something that your hiding from the other...i know everyone's different and has different wants and needs...if you NEED this in your relationship then yes...definetly its wrong..if your doing it cause that is what you both want i see nothing wrong with it...however it's not something that MOST relationships can handle.

Good points, chicadee...

For me it depends on the relationship. With my current partner there is no way on this earth that I would entertain the idea. With one of my ex's I would have done it in a heartbeat. The difference is the relationship that I have with each of them. My current partner is the monogamous type, and he would consider it at least to some degree cheating. My ex and I had a very fun, much more casual relationship and it would have been fine with him. We would have had a blast and I really dont't think it would have damaged us because of the type of relationship that we had. He was never going to be my forever person and we both knew it, nonetheless it was an awesome relationship, he is a fantastic guy and I still love him to bits. It would have been fun and in hindsight I wish I had suggested it. I guess all in all I would say that you need to think about what kind of relationship that you have and whether you think it can take th implcaitons of a three way.

Its not really bad thing , its on ur nature but in a relationship its both sides that commit , so u have to talk to ur boyfriend first about it , tell him how you feel bout it , if it gonna affect to ur relationship or not , dont be afraid and talk to him

we have talked about it, hes fine with it. The thing Im afraid of is when/ if I bring someone else into the picture, he'll start focusing more on her after the fact. WE've had a 3some before, and that girl moved, we're still friends with her and everything, but for about 2 weeks after that I heard alot of "why not call ***** and have her come over?" or "hows *****?" just things like that ya know? Im scared. I know Im not the prettiest thing in the world, but my attraction to women isnt for him, its FOR me. Im confused, and scared.

yep...i hear it all the time from mine...i don't think it's necessarily loosing focus..rather then him wanting to add variation...and well then there's the fact that he's a man..

If you are both in agreeance I say go for it!!

Happy trails!!! :)

Just be careful and have a plan that if things get awkward for one, you will all stop. Do not be afraid to speak your mind. It's very important. But I definitely think you should talk to your boyfriend about this. He should know your fantasies and interests. Good luck!

i think you should do what makes you happy but consider all the draw backs of adding a third person. i think the most beautiful sexual experience is shared between two people.

Its not a bad thing...im looking for the same thing. In I underdstand where your comming from!