ouch

((HUGS))

Thank you for the understanding it helps

damm TIm. damm--that's alot to handle actaully

i would flip the fuck out

what can u do to make it better?

any possible changes that you both can do in reality, or are ya'll too comfortable doing what you do each day?

pat

is she on antidepressants

Maybe she needs help too. Have you thought about trying to get her to see a pdoc too?

Yeah, sounds like you guys do stuff more alike than different, (i.e. you stay up at night on the computer, and she stays up and sleeps during the day), and I know how that can go in relationships. I have seen that, where one person does something and doesn't notice its affects on you, but you are doing almost the same thing and they get on your case? Is that kind of what is going on here?

I'm sorry.
Here's my advice: get you sleep cycle in order, never mind her. Then, drag her to a pdoc (kicking and screaming, I suppose) to find out what the bleep is wrong with her. I mean, she's not 16.

Sometimes I feel like that. But then I think that the only person I've been able to change in my life has been me. After 40 years of marital bliss, seems things have gone to hell in a handbag lately. She's a goin through menopause, least that's what she claims the problem to be. All I know is I don't know this woman anymore. She sleeps at least 12 hours a day. I do the dishes, laundry, bake bread. I don't mind sharing duties, just would like alittle help. I work 40 hrs regular, so does she. Earlier in our lives I made enough she didn't have to work unless she wanted to. Well. . .now it's she either works or we loose the house. All I'm working for is to get out of debt so she doesn't have to work till she dies. Worst thing could happen to me is if she died first. Then what the hell would I do? But her waking up in a poor mood is really getting old. Thing is I'm the one that has been diagnosed Bi-polar. She's supposed to be the healty, well balanced one. Doubt I can help you much, I can't take care of my own basket. Hope you get it worked out. Point of being together is to be happy with being together. JMHO

I'm not a grouch to my hubby, just poor company. My meds aren't straight and I had to leave a dinner party early yesterday due to panic attacks. My husband didn't complain. I try to keep the house clean and the laundry done. It's hard on my bad days when I just can't get up. I'm usually up at 5:30 before my husband goes to work, but I have no drive to go anywhere or do anything. Between the bipolar, panic attacks and agoraphobia, life's tough. She sounds depressed. I'd get her help. I wish you luck. {{{HUGS}}}

I've tried to get her to see somebody. . .she just tells me to go see somebody. Runs hot and cold in a moments notice. I feel her pain. . .and it hurts. But I'm beyond myself. I can't drag her someplace. . .though I feel like it. I just pray and do what I can. Thanks for advice.
Cheers,
otrpu

I hope it's not this remy. I am not into big brother soap opera shit! haha. I feel for you though. It's hard to worry about you, let alone another person thats not supportive!

Sounds like she needs to get help and maybe you need marriage counseling. You don't have to live that way. Give her an ultimatum.

Maybe you guys need marriage counseling?