Oh loddy, sorry you had a bad feeling with this person. Only you know if therapy will benefit you rather than just touching base with a pdoc. Personally, I like having a therapist check in regularly and then adding appointments when I'm going through really tough stuff. Wishing you well...that you connect with someone you feel you can work with and not one who makes you feel uneasy.

Thank you SHL. I'm no therapist but I think my problem is that I can't decide whether I want to be treated like a grown-up or like a little girl, e.g. the way my sister treats me. It would be a relief if my siblings could show me a little respect,but I don't think that's going to happen. Since I was hospitalized, I feel so much better,but I'm being torn apart by all these different opinions. I wish I didn't have to go back to therapy.I've talked about everything there is to talk about and I just don't think it works for me,if it ever did.

You have the most wonderful experiences! I'm sure it doesn't seem that way for you. I'm sure you'll be able to work things out, you being a very resourceful person. I've never had much use for therapists. I get a lot of good out of talking to myself and journaling. There are better things to spend 100 bucks on, like groceries. Take care.

I'm sorry your experience was so unpleasant, I think Tommy had a good suggestion about journaling. Some people get a lot of relief from just writing down what is bothering them then they can come back at another time and re-read it and work through it in a different frame of mind then when you may have written it.

(((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

You were very strong and brave to go to a new therapist - that's the hardest part - starting out. I'm sorry that you didn't have a good experience. I am in both group and individual therapy (have been for years) and don't know what I would do without it. But only you know YOU. Therapy isn't for everybody. (as much as I condone it!)

Loddy, I'm no expert on psychology and all of the millions of theories and structures of it, but I know what you mean about not knowing if you want to be treated like an adult or a little girl. I'm a bit skeptical sometimes about lots of psychological theories, or perhaps skeptical about the professionals using techniques on me like I'm a specimen in a petri dish....but....

I have a new therapist and we are making some ground on really deeply-rooted things from childhood, and it's actually helping me to gain strength as an adult. There's nothing we can do to change our pasts, but we can gather understanding about our current behaviors and why we do the things we do. Seems like a simple thing, but sometimes a trustworthy supporter and professional 'encourager' can help, which is what I feel my current therapist and I are doing. A cynic might say, yeah yeah yeah, they get paid to tell you nice things, but when there is a good honest genuine connection, a lot of growth and progress can be discovered.

Trouble is, finding that right connection. I wish you well if you do decide to keep trying to find the RIGHT therapist.

So sorry you had a bad experience... I think therapy is really good. You just have to find someone you click well with.

Hi Loddy,

Oh seeing a new therapist is tough if there is something you want to work on its worth while if you just dig up the past it's not in my experience.

Looking on the bright side I'm glad you recent hospitalization was a good experience and by all means see the pdoc who helped you. If he can't work with you perhaps he could recommend a pdoc?

Glad you are entertaining good choices