it's subjective. And I agree, people should be sympathetic to your feelings, especially those with whom you are in a personal relationship.

I hate it when people "minimize" my feelings. Everyone's perspective is different. Just because you feel one way about something and someone does not, doesn't negate YOUR feelings about the situation.

They are yours. You own them.

If it's a big deal to you, it's important. My sister always says everyone has a story. We all, so-called normal people and those struggling with mental illness, have our issues. Mine is getting up in the morning and the elephant on my chest I awake to called severe anxiety and depression. But my father is not psychologically minded so he keeps telling me how strong I am and I can overcome this, meds or no meds. It pisses me off. The man could use an SSRI and therapy himself but it will never happen. I just stick to talking to my mom, who gets it or my husband, who is learning more every day.

I agree completely. just because its not a problem for someone else does not mean its not a problem for me. I had a partial hysterectomy in may due to a cyst the size of a baseball on my left ovary, as i was coming out of my anethesia i saw a nurse standing by my bed. she said hello and started talking to me asking how i was feeling. i told her my migraine was gone that i had due to no caffeine for 1 1/2 days before the surgery but i was a little down knowing i had lost a part of me with the surgery. i let her know i was bipolar and she told me that i needed to quit labeling myself like that. i was so angry i asked her to leave my room and get me another nurse that wouldnt speak down to me. i guess she felt she was making it all better by saying that and didnt consider it rude. but i took it very offensively and several months later still dont feel i reacted wrong. so i definately know how u feel. just because its not a problem for someone else dosnt mean its not a problems for you. i have learned just to think that i have to make ME happy before i can make anyone else happy and I come first in my life. everyone else comes after ME. I know it sounds selfish but thats what i have had to do to live a peaceful happy life.

I say its no beg deal when i don't want the other person to know how i feel because i think it is not any of there busniss.

Confession. I think I've said it to people before. Not a lot, but in situations where the person is describing something that I've learned how to overcome. I make sure to back it up right away with an explanation of what it means to me and how I handle it and how I move forward. Maybe, next time, I should keep my mouth shut. x-o

how you feel is how you feel. I hate it when others try to tell my how I feel just isn't so. argh. If something is realy important to you then it is a big deal.

i have always kept my illness to myself. dont wanna make a show and be talked about. dont rely on no one never have never will.i only see doc if think im heading for a high. so i think i cope and care for myself pretty well.by involving others makes it a big deal. and they only look at you with the expression saying wtf

opp's I been known to say that when I don't hsve time to take moment out of my busy life to chat with whom ever.

Ya I sort of listen but will dismiss if person goes into step by step detail of whatever.

I personal don't give a rat's _ of other people option.
everyone has 1 I try to remain setting on mine.

The only people - business that thier opio matters to me is :
my p-doc,.p-rn, pharmist, my bank regarding my acct. & police & coast guad.

Please don't feel that I'm makeing light of this because I'm not
Try not to take it personnal. there's people like me who are too busy to pause for more than 15minutes. at a time.
Due to my illness there are also times that I can't deal with someone else. Thank God for medication.

Did they perhaps mean you were overreacting? Like causing yourself more grief than is necessary, rational. Hard to know without context. x