If he is in the midst of a manic episode, then no, he doesn't. Has he broken up with you or threatened the relationship during other such episodes? How is he supporting himself- (school loans)? If he was suicidal 6 months ago, and now has found the meaning of life without you, he may be in the midst of an episode that will be costly financially and otherwise. As it is, I would let go.

I can only speak for myself, but I think he will come back and regret all he is doing to you right now. However it is up to you if you are willing to wait and keep riding that rollercoaster with him or not. There will always be set-backs(my own experience with myself) Sorry I can't help you any more, in the end it is your decision

people break up with people. that's it. bipolar or not. it really doesn't matter why, does it? we just have to accept it and move on. because we can't change who we are and who we are is what got us dumped. so cry, mourn and move on.

Kris-
This is the first I have seen him "up" this high, have not seen anything approaching this. He is taking loans, yes, and has some family money. Yep suicidal 6 months ago, but with changes in meds and counseling, and lifestyle changes, this is how he has become.
Hard assed and uncaring, and almost as if he has to make up incompatibilities, that any other person it shouldn't bother. And he accuses me too of not liking him now because he no longer needs me and is no longer laying in bed pointless for days. My complaints were his anger irritation and impatience with me over stupid things - clutter in my house, procrastination. Are these really red flag character flaws in a person? This is what he is telling me they are.
Or the fact that I don't belong to a church, and his assumption that I don't believe in something bigger than myself (what most people call God)
Oh yes and he makes me feel like I am some withered old grandma (We are at different life stages")- because I have a job and own a home. So what? Would I not be fully capable and willing to wait? Yes, I am and would. He denies mania, says even his dr does not call him that. So here I am. It sure sounds verging on it to me

Sometimes we hate who we were during an episode so much that we hate everyone who was with us when we acted that way- and we throw the baby out with the bathwater. We even hate others for putting up with us, because we want to believe we will never have to allow the depressed behavior back into our own lives. If you sense you are getting the run around, you proably are, but he probably doesn't have any more insight into his motivation right now than you do.

If he has said that you are not right for him, that means that there is someone out there that is better for you, too. I agree with Lemmi's advice, that you shouldn't have to ride the roller coaster. I am BP and have been with my boyfriend 2 1/2 years. We have lived together for 1 year and he has seen it all since I have only been on the meds for 7 months. I would never, ever talk of dumping him because I know in my heart that he is right for me. I actually was dumped a lot in my day because of the BP. I was afraid to be alone but in the few years that I didn't have a serious relationship, I found that I could be alone if it came to that. It was then that I met my devoted boyfriend. SO, maybe you should let him go and be alone for a while. It can be very healing, and once you are comfortable with it, you'll probably meet the man right for you.

It all depends on how much you are willing to put up with, and this is a life-long illness. It will never go away. And if you have your own job and your own home, that might be what he resents - because he does not have it. Regardless, he still needs to be responsible for his own bad self, BP or otherwise. Maybe you could "just be friends" until he shows he can and will get control of his life - and for a period of time. Let him experience some more episodes on his own, and that he will take responsiblity for them. This doesn't mean you can't help him, but that he will not rely on you so much you wind up shouldering his responsibility. Be aware, even if he manages to get his life under control, he may "relapse" and be his old way again. It could cost you everything if you get married. You've got to take care of yourself first. And if you are not on a similar spriritual plane, that could make things even more difficult. A truly Godly person does not berate one who is not. As for the clutter and procrastination, they are possible symptoms of some underlying problems, but again, you should not be getting berated for them, but helped in finding understanding with compassion and gentleness.